Uninviting Someone To Your Wedding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Scrivo:  You really left the groomsman no choice but to drop out. But since you were half expecting that, I think you still did the right thing. I hope you have a wonderful wedding!

Who knows, perhaps your fiance can keep contact with his friend on a guys-only basis.

Post # 5
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Scrivo:  Yikes. Hopefully you talked to the guy and told him why you wanted to uninvite his wife?

Post # 7
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That’s ridiculous. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and FH. Some people just have no dignity or concept of appropriate behaviour. Blech.

Post # 8
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It sounds like you did the right thing. My story is the other way around: My fiance was uninvited to a wedding last year. And he was supposed to be the Best Man!! He had been best friends with the groom for about 10 years.

It started when the bride (who I did not know very well) asked me to come to her shower. She said the MOH would send me an invitation with the details. She specifically told me to direct all questions I had about the shower to the hostess/MOH. She said it in a way that made me think she didn’t want to deal with me. I bought her a present… waited a while… and never got an invitation.

Two days before the event, I e-mailed the MOH and asked for the event details, since my invitation never arrived. The MOH never responded. I didn’t know where to go or what to do, so on the day of the shower I sent the bride a sweet message saying I didn’t know where to do or what to do, and I hoped she had a happy day, and I’d give her present to her the next time I saw her.

Her response was completely crazy. The bride and the MOH both sent a series of nasty messages berating me. It got seriously weird: “I’m not too incredibly interested in your excuses… I’m done with people not willing to help me out with all this.  You truly find out who your close friends are in these situations and I’m glad for it, it helps me see who I should put my time and energy into.” I didn’t know this girl well, so that seemed pretty strange.

I was blindsided by the nastiness, and I cried a lot about it. So my fiance stood up for me and sent the bride a message telling her to chill out. She went nuts on him, too, and their messages got progressively nastier and more profane. After he called her a bitch, it was no surprise that he was un-invited to the wedding. But it was all pretty damn weird.

That was a year and a half ago. We never heard from the couple again.

Post # 9
4395 posts
Honey bee

How crazy! What caused her to act like this?

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