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#2.
From what you've posted, it sounds like it's more like you. The estate will be a lot of work, but it will be memorable especially if you've involved friends and you have enough time to plan creative options.
sounds beautiful!
Agreed.... #2 sounds amazing and worth the extra set-up/cleanup if you'll have that much more time to make use of the venue, and it will be a more worthwhile trip for your guests. Plus being able to party as late as you want sounds great! Closing up shop at 9 pm at #1 sounds like it could be a bummer.
One thing I forgot to mention is that Option 2 is right off a main road, so its kind of got a lot of traffic noise on the lower terraces, and you can see cars from many spots. So, during the ceremony, there might be lots of traffic noise in the background....
#2. Recently attended a wedding at a big estate - but it really wasn't that confusing. Get a DOC (or DOC plus), and they are good at moving people from one part to the next when the time is right. Another super cute and fun option is to put the map on coasters. If you are only doing one color font, you can get custom coasters for very cheap, and then everyone knows where everything is. Go with #2. I live in San Diego, and I'd rather attend #2 (and I'm getting married on a vineyard!) - but the place you are talking about is cute, but not practical for a fun wedding weekend.
Congrats! Choosing a venue is sooo exciting :) Erin
I love #2, no time limits, bringing your own liquor could save you alot of money, and it sounds really fun!!
i'm sold on the day after pool party/brunch so #2. it would be great for out of town guests to make a wknd of it!
Is there really a choice? Two sounds perfect. I was waiting for you to say the estate was crazy expensive or something. It really sounds too good to be true. I am jealous!
Its not crazy expensive for us - it is for future brides but we got in early. The thing is there's not a "perfect" ceremony spot. There's lots of good spots but there's also traffic noise from a major street right there. But its not the end of the world....
Thanks for all the input! You gals are great.
You should totally go with what you feel will be memorable and lovely for that night. We were considering a beautiful old estate, but actually decided it wouldn't work for a couple of the same issues you have - no good place for everyone on our guest list to gather (it's a house, after all, mostly small rooms), no good place for the ceremony except for outside, and traffic, traffic, traffic, which was problematic from the perspective of sound, exhaust smell, and really limited outside photo options (due to the presence of cars and roads). If we were having a much smaller gathering (less than 50) it probably would have been better. Interestingly enough, the thing that really tanked it for me was the traffic noise. The rest we could have worked around...
The venue we picked (country club) has gorgeous lawns, trees, streams, and a huge balcony for guests to get outside if the would like. It's also essentially in the middle of the golf course, so you don't hear (or see) any traffic!!
I vote for 2 since you're asking opinions.
it gives you the cool vibe you were going for. plenty of stuff ro peopel to do. you wont have to cut off your partying early. you could possibly save more money by getting locals to help.......you genuinely sound more excited about #2 than #1.
CONGRATS on almost choosing a venue!
I vote for #2, just the way you write your email shows how excited you are for the second spot.
Have fun!! It sounds so awesome, I am so happy for you!
#2 hands down. We went with our own version of "unique and complicated" and we've never regretted it!
2 sounds great #1 sounds like RB (booring..I've worked a few weddings there)
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Bees = I need your help! Please, your advice would be such a help. Sorry this is long, but its a big choice!
I need help deciding between 2 venues. There are pros and cons to each, and they cost relatively about the same. Here is the rundown:
Contender 1 - winery in suburban san diego:
Its rustic and charming. Its sweet and warm. Its also 25 miles outside of San Diego proper, with no excitement in the neighborhood. Most of our guests will be either coming down from LA or flying from otherwheres, so we'd hoped for a more happening destination. Here's the details:
1. You must use their beverage package, only their wine, domestic beers and pepsi soft drinks and water. Kinda pricey and their wine is so-so.
2. You must be done by 9pm because of noise-ordinances. Kinda lame. Especially when the most exciting place we can sort out for an afterparty is the Marriott hotel bar....
3. The whole thing will only be 5 hours.
4. Its so cute and sweet, and requires very little in the way of decorations.
5. They have tables and chairs available, so its 2 less things to worry about bringing in.
Then, there's the other contender...
Famous and exclusive estate in the Hollywood Hills:
Its elegant and exciting, even stunning, with tons of terraces and gardens, many levels of terraces throughout the property. Its got a lovely waterfall and spring pond, and a house with rooms for people to stay in, a pool and jacuzzi.
1. Convenient and local for the in-town guests. Exciting location for OOT guests.
2. Unusual location which is just recently available to the public. We're getting it for a fraction of the cost because of advance booking.
3. More complicated because of all the levels to the estate. We'd have maps or signs directing people to different areas... dining, cocktails, dancing this way.... but its possible it would be more "scattered" and less "focused".
4. We could get more friends to do us favors locally and make it more personal.
5. More work would go into setup and cleanup.
6. We get the place for the next full day and could do the day-after brunch/pool party thing.
7. There's no time restriction, and no bar package. We can do our own liquor and save money. We could party until 2am if that is how it goes.
I think that's enough info... Its a lot, I know. But based on experience, what do you think? Is it better to do something completely unique and exciting, which no one has ever done before the way you'll do it, for a more convenient location, but maybe more complicated execution? Or better to stick to an old staple which would be beautiful and sweet, but done before and less conveniently located but easy to execute?
I thank you in advance for your input!
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