Post # 1
A mutual friend suggested that my fiance and I look at a Unitarian church for our wedding ceremony.
This is fine with me. Although I was baptized Catholic and went to a Catholic school until I was 8, I do NOT follow the religion or consider myself catholic at all. In fact I don’t follow any organized religion. I am very spiritual, though, and do believe in a higher power and all that jazz.
My fiance is pretty much agnostic but he seemed open to the idea of a Unitarian church.
I’m just curious to see what these church services, ceremonies are all about. I’ve been to catholic, lutheran, christian, “traditional” ceremonies so I just keep picturing sitting, standing, kneeling, singing in unison and reading from the bible. If a Unitarian church doesn’t conform to one religion (or any religion) …. what do they do at a service?
I’m willing to go check it out but I just want to be “prepared” and not feel like an idiot.
Post # 3
@Stace126: At the Unitarian church I was raised in, there’s some standing and sitting for hymns (although they do emphasize that those who aren’t able can “rise in spirit”), but no kneeling. There are readings, although not always from the Bible, there’s a sermon, there’s an offering… It is a branch of Christianity, so I don’t think the format would be so different from anything you’ve been to before–just the content will be a little more groovy. 😉
We’re getting married at a Unitarian church as FH has his heart set on being married in a church (I would be happy with City Hall, but hey) and Unitarian is about as religious as I’m willing to go. I’d recommend checking it out, it sounds like it could work for you based on what you’ve said.
Post # 4
I attend a UU church with my fiance. Unitarian Universalists do not have a specific creed, and so services are very versatile. At the fellowship that I attend, we have hymns – some secular and some religious – and instead of prayer we have a call to meditation. You can pretty much set up the service however you want. I highly recommend that you attend a service before committing. No matter where I have travelled, I have always found UUs to be very open and willing to talk about their faith. I’m sure anyone at the church would be willing to answer any questions that you might have.
One thing to be wary of, though, is that some UU churches do not have full-time ministers. Depending on the time of year – I live in South Texas, so we only have a minister in the winter, when the winter Texans come down – you might have to find your own officiant.
Post # 5
We used a UU pastor for our wedding, and he actually came to our venue and officiated our ceremony for us. It worked out really well, as I’m Christian and my husband is athiest. The pastor was super open to everything that we wanted to include/not include, and basically left us customize the whole thing!
Post # 6
My husband is an atheist and I’m agnostic, and we got married at a Unitarian Church. The pastor was very open to do whatever kind of ceremony we wanted. He emailed me his standard ceremony, but had zero issues with me cutting things out (a lot of the prayers) and adding our own secular readings and other bits we wanted. We ended up with a pretty secular (with the exception of one blessing and a reading on the Love is Kind verse) and very US ceremony. I’d definitely look into it, and talk to a minister there and feel him/her out.