Post # 1
I really like the idea for both I want to do both we are having an outdoor ceremony why I wanted to do both is because I wanted his mom to lite one and my mom to lite the other so when we light it together it symbolizes two families coming together as an unity why I want to do the sand other then I think it’s kool lol is because I have 2 children from prior marriage I shan’t them to fill the tubes with sand and then we pour to symbolize our family coming as one and to show there except acne of him what do you all think about this is this a great idea or too much?
Post # 3
I would stick with the sand ceremony idea as for my it’d be too much. It’d also be perfect to really have the children involved in the ceremony rather than your mothers because from a perspective that is the true family you are joining together. Then you also have the sand to keep in your home and look at as a reminder of your new family.
Post # 4
It already takes long enough to do one of those so I think doing both is too much. I think it’s a lovely idea to include your moms and children, however, if you only do one I would include your children.
To me, our parents aren’t joining together as a family. My husband and I joined together as a family but my parents will rarely see his parents. However, children will be a much larger part of your life.
Post # 6
I think the sand ceremony is very sweet and a nice way to include children (when my good friend did it, her little girl spilled some of the sand and got very embarrassed, and her new stepdad brushed it up and hugged her, which was the cutest moment of the entire wedding). The unity candle on top of it would be a bit much, though. Maybe you could have your mothers bring up the sand and hand it to you?