Unity Candle, Sand Ceremony, Other?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What are your plans?
    Unity Candle : (3 votes)
    12 %
    Sand Ceremony : (5 votes)
    19 %
    Knots : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Handfasting : (4 votes)
    15 %
    Other, please explain : (12 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 2
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We just said our vows because neither of us were personally a fan of unity candles/sand ceremonies etc. I have seen friends do a wine box ceremony – the picked a nice bottle of wine together and wrote letters to one another that were locked in a commemorative wooden box to be opened on their 10th wedding anniversary.

    Post # 4
    2918 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I did a sand ceremony but I had a destination wedding

    Post # 5
    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    MrsUPS:  I’m not religious, don’t know if you are, but my aunt did a unity cross & it was nice! For not being religious myself I really liked the idea. Its a cross that the groom and bride put together and then you can display it in your home. 

    Post # 7
    42166 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You could use Blessing Stones

    <br /> When a wedding is near water, Blessing or Wishing stones are either gathered at the site or provided by the couple not only for themselves but for the wedding party and guests as well. After the ceremony all follow the bride and groom’s recessional to the water, make a wish or blessing for them and cast their stone into the water. The ripples that are made represent the love and good wishes for not only the couple, but for all the world… as our ripples cross and re-cross one another’s, so do our love and good wishes touch and retouch all around us and those with whom we come into contact.

    Or you could fire guns into the air and give a 21 gun salute. (I’m assuming you love guns by your choice of boutonnieres.)

    Post # 8
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    We are including a wine cremony which our family will fill a wine cup (you could just do it yourselves) and you take turns drinking from the wine cup kind of feeding eatch other.

    sorry for the huge pic! IDK how to resize it! I am a wineo at heart so give me a reason to drink wine anyday! lus there are sweet sentiments that can be said durring the ceremnoy just google WIne ceremony 😀

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  znowbird22.
    Post # 10
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

     I actually really like handfasting much more then unity candles or sand but do not plan on doing any of them, I would rather just write my own vows.

    Post # 11
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    MrsUPS:  My fiance and I aren’t really religious but I wanted something to extend our ceremony a little longer than 5 minutes so we are adding a ring warming ceremony. We are having about 100-110 guests and its indoors. We will start off addressing it and the rings will be passed around the room in a small pouch where those we love can hold them, say a prayer/make a wish and than pass it around. In my circle of friends, those whom got married did the sand ceremony with family or just as a couple so I knew I didn’t want to do anything like that and we didn’t want to do a unity candle do to our venues policy on candles with open flames. I thought this might be a good way to have guest involvement and something I haven’t seen done in my area. I get why some wouldn’t want this but we are going to be indoors so I’m not worried about it! 

    Post # 12
    663 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We are writing our own vows and doing the fishermen knot ceremony. Hand fasting is a different ceremony, I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last year and they did the hand fasting and it was really nice too but we like the symbolism of the fishermen knot.

    Post # 13
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We did a sand ceremony and it was great.  I recommend!  It depends what you like, though.  My cousin did a wine box ceremony and it was nice.  It wouldn’t have been for us, but it fit them well.

    My husband is a chemist, so I toyed with the idea of doing something where we poured two beakers of ingredients together and got a visual reaction type of thing, like maybe a color changing clock reaction or something.  I think it could have been cool since we did other chemistry stuff in our decor, but it was a bit of a hassle to try to figure out what to do that would be visible, safe, meaningful, etc.  So we went with sand in our wedding colors.

    Post # 14
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Other: Taste the Four Elements that represents the good and bd times of a relationship: lemon/ sour, honey/ sweet, vinegar/ bitter, cayenne/ spicy.

    Post # 15
    1287 posts
    Bumble bee

    we are doing a beer unity ceremony. Black and Tan  – Guinness and Bells Two Hearted.

    We will have the 2 bottles of beer on ice in a small tin bucket.  We got a special beer glass etched with our names, rings and wedding date.  We also bought a “turtle” to put on the glass to separate the beers to dark/tan.  

    We wanted to do something unique and different instead of the traditional unity cermony rituals.


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