@shootznladrz89: Ah, OK. That makes sense. 🙂
Again, I’m not trying to talk you into having one, but I just wanted to note why I had one and really like that I did. I had never even heard of a sand ceremony until my DH (who is a pastor) suggested that we do one instead of a unity candle. (We also were married outside, but he just like the idea of a sand ceremony better.)
Because of our faith, we used one with three colors of sand — one (white) representing God (poured in first by the pastor) that was to represent God’s role as the foundation of our marriage. Then, my DH and I each took turns pouring small amounts of sand into the vase until our individual vases were empty. Finally, the pastor poured in the remaining white sand, representing God’s covering of and protection for our marriage. (Couples who do not practice a faith generally just choose two colors.)
The reason I, as a married woman, love having this completed vase of sand in our home is that it is a very strong visual of the fact that, now that DH and I are married, there is no easy, neat, or clean way that either of us could ever get all of our own sand back. Even if we tried to separate out every tiny grain of our own sand, we could not possibly do so without seriously disrupting all of the other sand. And, frankly, it would be impossible for us to not end up taking whole lot of the other person’s sand with us.
The sand seems to settle a little bit more every time I move the vase to dust beneath it, and to me, that represents how, over time, DH’s life and mine continue to become even more entwined (not the word I’m looking for, but it’s the best one I can think of right now.)
I definitely can see how someone might initially think, “simple, five-year olds’ craft project” when he or she consider this idea. That makes sense to me. However, I just wanted to offer my own experience with this just to provide a different perspective.
There is also cord-braiding ceremony that I’ve seen done, and that was beautiful, too. Whatever you decide, I hope you and your FI find something that you love!