Post # 1
Help! This issue has my Fiance and I bickering. I love the unity candle and would like to have it for our future kids to use at their weddings to light their new candle, but he says it’s a dying tradition and he likes the idea of the ‘blending’ of the sand ceremony. I don’t really care for that so much… and think the black and white would end up looking grey or the black and yellow like a bumble bee.
We are at odds over this and I suggested doing both, but it turns out candles and displays and sand ceremony sets are expensive and we just can’t budget it in 🙁
Any other bees go through this? Any ideas?
Post # 3
Although I’ve heard about it, I have actually never seen a sand blending but I am still seeing unity candles used so I’m not sure that’s a dying tradition yet. However, is your love of the unity candle or that future children could use it? Because future children could use the sand too. What about other alternatives such as blending wine and drinking from the same cup? I actually have to agree with you that the sand would blend over time. What about using sand colors that aren’t your wedding colors? Or using those glass rocks or blending rose petals?
Post # 4
I want to add that you could still use sand but they don’t have to be different colors.
Post # 5
I don’t want the candles, so we’re doing flowers instead. The same idea, but with flowers, basically. I would have done the sand, but heard our best man talking about it, although they never did it, but I was sold on the flowers. Your kids may not even want to use them when they get married-they may not be done, or they want to use their own! You never know!
Post # 6
I read about couples purchasing a small tree and then each pouring a small vase of water in it. They would then plant it outside their house and maybe add small trees for each child… It sounds kind of different, but sort of neat! Has anyone done/seen this? Did it work well?
Post # 7
I love the idea of planting a tree! I can’t remember if it’s a Greek or Turkish tradition that when you move into a new house you plant an olive seed for happiness and fertility in your new home or something to that effect. I think that’s awesome.
Post # 8
google Lighthouse sand ceremony…
It will take you to a website that has a sand ceremony kit that has a sealing topper that is an oil lamp. We are combining his desire for the traditional candle unity and mine for sand ceremony. We will use the traditional candles to represent our families, blend the sand, and then be able to light the sand container just as you would a center candle. After the wedding, we will have the sand oil lamp for a decor item in our house.
hope this is a idea for you….
Post # 9
If you go to a craft store you can make your own sand/ candle set.
You can get these containers from Michaels http://www.michaels.com/art/online/displayProductPage?productNum=hd0421&channelid=
and decorate them how you want to… AND
You can use the beaded wax instead of sand (something similar to this http://www.candlewic.com/store/category.aspx?q=c15&title=Granulated%20Candle%20Wax%20Art%20Crystals) and then you can have both the sand and candle idea for alot cheaper. (This shop sells in bulk so its a bit expensive but you get the idea!)