(Closed) Universal bridesmaid budget

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it really depends on each bridesmaid.  I have bridesmaids that cover basically every income bracket, and their ideas of “normal” would be really different.  I don’t think there is such thing as a universal budget for bridesmaids.  If those numbers are reasonable for you and your friends, then that’s great!  I’m glad you all could figure out a budget that works nicely for everyone! 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I also had bms that covered all areas of the income bracket….there’s this saying my friends and I always say when we snowboard as a group “you can only go as fast as your slowest person”…..I believe that’s true for bridal parties as well. You can only spend as much as your poorest person. That is how I went about things. And considering the lowest income person in my group of girls I would not have felt right asking her to pay more than $100 so my DH and I covered everything except alterations.

I agree that if you’re asked to be a bm you should have it in your head that you’ll spend AT LEAST $500 and to consider that before agreeing. It would be wonderful if it stayed within $500 though!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m with @abbie017:  I don’t think there is a universal budget for a BM.  What seems reasonable to you won’t seem reasonable to others.  If I were still a college student, no way could I come up with $500 for someone else’s wedding.  I also definitely don’t think a BM on a budget is unfair to a bride.  Parties and presents aren’t mandatory and no BM should feel she must contribute financially to one.  I think people trump money so it’s kinda weird to me to say that one should decline standing up with a good friend on her wedding day because one can’t afford a fancy dress or pay for a party.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I kinda agree with OP. I think a lot of the time a friend accepts the position as a bridesmaid without really thinking about the costs. I did go over the costs with each of them in detail and they all assured me it would be no problem. They had over 1 and1/2 years to save for the bridesmaids gowns and when the time came to order my mom had to pay because they werent prepared. It has happened to me with my own sisters. I wish they had just politely declined rather than making things difficult. Maybe it is horrible for me to say, but it really put a strain on our relationship.

I dont think there is a universal budget for everyone, but OP has thrown some numbers out there that seem very average/reasonable to me. I think if bridesmaids went into it planning for these expenses it would eliminate a lot of problems.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

All bridesmaids NEED to shell out for is the dress.  Most of the time we can wear our own shoes, do our own hair and makeup and nails (those things are something the bride should pay for if she wants them done).  Shower and bachelorette parties are nice, but are not required events.

Clearly all bridesmaids are responsible for their own travel, but as brides we do try to find good deals at hotels and reserve a room block at discouted rates.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think the bridesmaids should pay for their dresses, since its something that they can wear again (hopefully?). 

But, I think asking them to pay HUNDREDS of dollars is a bit much. Even if they can afford it. Unless its a dress that they love and would wear again, then that’s cool. But hundreds of dollars on a dress her friend picked out to wear to HER day? I think that’s too much.

Personally, my bridesmaids dresses are going to be as inexpensive as possible. Their budgets are $100 tops. This is mostly because they’re all students and somewhat broke, like me haha!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree I think it’s different for everyone. Even if I could afford it since I know by experience that you hardly ever reware a bridesmaid dress I’m not willing to spend hundreds of dollars on it. I think the bride should sit down with all the brides maid and find what they are all comfotable spending.

I know for me a few people doing very well, one has two kids, and other doesn’t make that much. I plan on asking the ladys what their budget is, and if we go over I’m paying for the last too. It does end up costing a lot with all the events. I think even with in the bridal the party there are going to range of what people can afford.

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