Post # 1
Hey everyone! Just as wedding planning was going soooo smoothly, we just got thrown a big wrench.
Apparently, according to Cantonese (HK specifically?) tradition, it is a bad omen to receive a blue wedding invitation. It’s suppose to be unlucky for the guest to receive it and unlucky for the couple sending it.
Well, we already cleared it with our parents that we are having a completely western wedding (no tea ceremony, no qipao, no red double happiness signs). And our colors are sky blue, navy blue and tangerine orange for a summer wedding and we have paid the deposits on the invitations, cake, and bridesmaid dresses.
My FMIL is adamant that we change the color of the invitations to any color other than blue (her suggestion green and gold).
Has anyone heard of this tradition? My Taiwanese parents have never heard of it and it would be a big hassle to change the whole color scheme.
Any advice in how to deal with this situation is greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
Is it possible to change the color of the invitation to something that is still in keeping with your same color scheme? I wonder if you went with a muted version of the tangerine you’re using? That would be beautiful.
Post # 4
Could you make the bulk of the invitation orange (like your pocketfolds, if you are using them, main backing panel, etc.) with blue accents (printing, ribbon, etc.)? Maybe check with your FMIL about whether it’s ok that the accents are blue, but the bulk of it is not. (If you care that much about observing the tradition). Deciding on colors was such a big deal for me, not to mention the hassle and cost of having to change bm dresses, etc., it would be really hard for me to change.
On the other hand, there’s also something to be said about invitations not having to be totally matchy-matchy with your theme. If you send out a neutral kind of invitation, you can still keep your color theme for the main event. Paper and stationery are really important to me and other paper-loving/detail oriented/bride-to-be types, but I think a lot of guests don’t really give it much thought. Good luck!
Post # 5
In Chinese tradition, blue and white are used for funerals. That is probably why your FMIL is making a fuss about it.
Post # 6
I haven’t heard of that Taiwanese tradition, but in my culture (Cambodian) there can’t be any green since green means infidelity so Although I’m not superstitious , I had to change my colors since I didn’t want those who believed in it to assume my marriage will be doomed. I agree with mrsrothberg on using the orange.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2018 - Dreams Cancun Resort & Spa
Man, that’s quite the predicament. I’ve never heard of that before. Are your invitations already done? What if most of the invitation focused on orange? My colors are coral and tiffany blue. All my inserts are shades of orange tied together with teal ribbon but my envelopes are tiffany blue, I hope no one I send it knows of this.
Post # 8
Thanks guys for the advice!
mrsrothberg, we are definitely considering changing the colors to make peace and taking some of your advice, I am researching how orange would work with letterpress.
We’re using Tara from Epherema Press and she has been great. She is even going to send us some samples of her work using orange ink in letterpress.
Hopefully, we can keep the rest of the wedding the same!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2007 - Bride's family summer home in the Adirondacks
Haha our invites were blue and white but luckily no one in my husband’s Cantonese family objected (or at least they didn’t say anything) I agree with the other suggestions just to try to make it a little LESS blue to try to appease people but not mess with your color scheme too much. Good luck!!!