Unmarried Maid of Honor

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it wrong to have an unmarried maid of honour?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    1 %
    No : (155 votes)
    99 %
  • Post # 3
    32 posts
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Maybe I’m wrong but isn’t the “maid” title because the woman is unmarried? If they are married, she then becomes “matron” …I think, at least.

    Absolutely NOTHING wrong with an unmarried woman standing up with you!




    Post # 4
    3557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Maid of honor is and unmarried friend, matron of honor is a married friend…I guess I don’t see what the deal is.

    Post # 5
    873 posts
    Busy bee

    I think maid if honor is supposed to be unmarried actually. if they are married then it is matron of honor.. i think?

    Post # 6
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    A maid of honour is unmarried, a matron of honour is married.

    It doesn’t matter either way, have whoever you like 🙂

    Post # 7
    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @TG123:  A maid of honor is unmarried. Matron of honor is married. I’m having one of each, and it is very common.

    Post # 8
    748 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @TG123:  The very phrase “maid of honor” means unmarried. “Matron of honor” is for married women. Your mom is being ridiculous.

    Post # 9
    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    Maid of Honor IS unmarried. A Matron of honor is married. I have seen people mix these up though before…I attended a wedding where the unmarried sister of the bride was in the program as the Matron of Honor.

    Post # 10
    1241 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m having a maid and matron of honor as well. 

    The maid isn’t supposed to be married.

    Post # 11
    9949 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    The maid of honor is always unmarried.  She’s your matron of honor if she’s married.  Which is a horrible term.

    Post # 12
    5769 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Maid or matron, marital status doesn’t really matter either way in the grand scheme of things. I mean, if your maid of honor is married, no one is gonna call you out on not having named her “matron” are they?


    Post # 13
    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Eckle:  +1


    @TG123:  I’ve never heard of the requirement to have a married maid/matron of honour. It’s all about who you want to support you and stand up for you… in my opinion at least. It doesn’t matter if they are married or not.

    Post # 14
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My Maid of Honour is married and i tease her about being a matron, its a much uglier word imo and there really is no reason to differentiate.

    Post # 15
    324 posts
    Helper bee

    @TG123:  Your mom is wrong. The maid of honor is unmarried. The matron of honor is married. You can have one, both, or neither. 

    Post # 16
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @TG123:  Maid of honor means she’s unmarried. Matron of honor means she married.

    Even though I was married, my friend put me in her programs as a maid of honor though because she doesn’t like the sound of matron of honor and no one batted an eyelash, but in response to your questions you can most certainly have an unmarried MOH.

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