Post # 1
I am having a very small wedding (30guests: immediate family and life long friends) so obviously I won’t have a large wedding party. FH doesn’t want any groomsmen because he thinks it’s a hassle to deal with. I don’t really want bridesmaids either, but I am considering asking my best friend to be my “unofficial bridesmaid”. I want her to come with me when I shop for my dress and other bride-y things.
I am a bridesmaid in her wedding late this year, and she gave me a little gift with the “will you be my bridesmaid” note attached.
Would it be weird/tacky to do something similar but actually put “unofficial bridesmaid” on it?
Post # 3
Seems kind of weird. Are you expecting her to do “Bridesmaid jobs” like throw you a shower and buy a dress and be at your beck and call? If so, I’d just ask her to come as a friend and not ask her to be an “unoffical bridesmaid” because really, that’s kind of a smack in the face IF she’s supposed to be doing all the official duties.
A good friend will do what needs to be done with or without a title.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Don’t call it a bridesmaid (especially not an unofficial bridesmaid), just ask her to help you out as your best friend.
Post # 5
@harris2014: I’m my BFF’s “unofficial MOH”. She didn’t officially “ask” me, but I’m the only non-related person invited to her semi-elopement and I’ve been doing all the shopping with her for dress fabric, decor, etc. I think it would be cute to give her a little gift.
Post # 6
@harris2014: Don’t put “unofficial” bridesmaid. I wouldnt even make a production at all. When the time comes for you to do all of those “wedding” things, simply call her and let her know how honored you’d be to have her there 🙂 A bride asked me recently to come with her to pick her dress with her and her bridesmaids, even though I am not one 🙂 It is a very nice gesture!
We are not doing parties either, so that’s exactly how I’m going to handle it: “hey good friend, I’d love it if you joined me for ______.”
Post # 7
@harris2014: Why not just have her stand up there with you? It doesn’t have to be even.
Post # 8
I might just ask her to be a bridesmaid. I probably won’t have a shower or anything so it’s not like I want her to do that stuff. I just want a friend to talk weddings with:)