- 7 years ago
It’s Unofficially Official – we’re engaged! No wine and dine, no moonlit beach, but at home, him in his jammies and me getting ready for church.
On Saturday night, I got a text from my sister informing me that a guy who was once a great friend to me – “P” – had gotten engaged. As happens in this situation, my emotions overtook my common sense. When HeFlutter came downstairs, I showed him the text, and his response was, “Are you joking? Is he INSANE?!” (P’s FI and I got off to a rough start – she was flitty and a little crazy if you ask me…) So, I did what any red-blooded girl would do in this situation. I rolled over, tried to bottle it up, but sobbed nonetheless. HeFlutter laid on the bed next to me, held me in his arms, and didn’t say a word. He just let me cry.
The next morning I was still reeling. I went through the mental list of people we’d known that have been divorced, engaged, and re-married since we’ve been together. I wasn’t going to bring it up – I was just going to suck it up and deal. HeFlutter cornered me before he got in the shower and said, “Are you upset with me?” I responded, “No, I’m just upset in general.” Which – again – started the water works. HeFlutter gave me his shoulder again, looked me in the eyes, and told me that he’d been trying for weeks now to get everything to fall into place, but he didn’t want to wait any longer. He was going to try to wait until we went to the beach this weekend to bring it up, but when P got engaged the night before, he saw how much it affected me and realized that it wasn’t worth making me wait any longer, and he asked me to marry him.
I apparently kept shaking my head (which he brought up later) saying, “I feel like I’m taking this away from you,” to which he responded, “You’re not – you’re giving me something great. And hey – I’m a stubborn jackass. Do you really think that if this isn’t what I want, I’d be doing it??” He was beaming from ear to ear – and the sight of his goofy-ass grin melted my heart. At one point, he said, “You still haven’t answered yet…” To which I responded lightheartedly, “I’ll have to think about it…” And then, said, “Of course it’s a YES!!”
He wanted to talk to his parents and my parents first, and he has wanted for WEEKS to bring up going and picking out a ring, but the time was never “perfect”. He wanted to wait until Labor Day Weekend to propose, but realized that was too long to wait. DragonCon was our first big fun “us” thing that we went to. Then, he wanted to wait until we went to Chicago next month, but decided he didn’t want to wait any more.
We’re going to keep it to ourselves until we can A) inform the family, B) pick out my ring, and C) enough time has passed since P’s enagement that it doesn’t look like we’re stealing their thunder. (P and his FI have been together about a year and a half versus our 3 1/2 years…)
So there it is – my unorthodox prosal and my officially unofficial engagement!