Post # 31
elderbee : because elderbee I’m not pregnant & it’s not and issue because I have unsuccessfully been trying to get pregnant so events which may or may not take place long when (if) I get pregnant aren’t an issue now. Not really a rhetorical question, explanation easily provided.
Not sure how you read I was changing my story because people told me to apologise – which as you can see in my update I did. I also apologised to the group. Who didn’t feel it was an issue.
Posts are always somewhat limited. I didn’t but write that I listened to her pushing for the baby shower for over 5 mins before I snapped. But gave a general overview of the conversation, there’s a limit on what anyone can write about their situation. Apologises if my brevity offended you I felt I had covered all the bases.
Post # 32
You said you’re not even planning to get pregnant right now. What wouldn’t been hard about –
Her – “Oh, I can’t wait to throw your baby shower!”
You – “We’ll see, haha. So, did anyone see the season finale of Girls last weekend? Oh my god!”
She was trying to be sweet and you really made a muck of it, picking a fight about a completely abstract idea. She wasn’t insisting on throwing one NOW, you aren’t pregnant, she was making a very kind gesture and you basically called her a selfish, grabby asshole. I would’ve walked out, too.
You owe her – and everyone else – a sincere apology.
Post # 33
I agree with the majority. I’m glad you apologised. Although I don’t think having been trying for awhile is an excuse. We’ve been trying a year and a half so I know the feelings but I still feel what you said was incredibly rude. Showers may be gift grabby but turning down someone’s kind gesture in the manner you did is worse. You should have just changed the subject.
Anyway, glad you apologised and that everything is okay now.
Post # 34
The benefit of hindsight is 20/20 there as a hundred things I could of and should of said but I reacted the way I did and I can’t change it now.
Thankfully we have all had a lovely lunch together today. She has accepted my apology and also offered one of her own. Thankfully neither her nor my friends seem to think what was said and done had the same level of awfulness as many here seem to think. But I will put that down to the fact that we know the full story not only regarding the event but individual personalities and how we are as a group.
So happy ending all round!!
Post # 35
dublingirl : your words weren’t twisted, you made someone who had a baby shower feel like she was terrible and you were the better person for not wanting one. I’d apologize and just say you just get nervous in the spot light and you are sorry. Next time, drop it.
Post # 36
dublingirl : It’s true, we don’t know the full story! We only know the parts you told us about your experience and the things you did/said 🙂