Unplugged wedding etiquette?

posted 2 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

My daughter was married 3 weeks ago today and her photographer sent her a link Friday, with around 800 proofs. This link can be sent/e-mailed to all your guests – in our case, they enter their name and the contact person’s (mine) e-mail address. They can buy directly from the photographer, if they like, or wait until the album is ordered and then the bride and groom are given the proof files – so they can share everything/anything they want. We’ll then make shutterfly-type albums, for the 3 grandmother. 

In our 1st daughter to marry’s photography contract, we had to agree that no on else would take photos, while they were taking, or setting up photos to take. The minister announced it, before the bridal party entered. Guests were also asked to remain seated, from the processional through the recessional, and I think everyone complied; maybe a few snuck some shots, while they were walking out. There was no flash photography, which would ruin the professional photos and videography.

I don’t know what my 2nd daughter to marry’s contract said, but her father made the same announcements, before the processional. Asking everyone to remain seated helps to keep them from walking-out into the aisle, to get their photos. I didn’t see any flashes – maybe there were some during the recessional? Of course, in both cases, the photographers were behind all of the guest, didn’t use flashes, didn’t walk around and distract. I’ve seen too many weddings on TV where the videographer sets up his camera in the aisle, between the 2 front rows and one or two photographers are roaming around, behind the officiant, during the whole service.

I must say that the 225 guests, during my 1st daughter’s reception were actively taking photos and video. They crowded the edges of the dance floor, during the 3 special dances and cake cutting, so badly, that most of the guests couldn’t see. I was not happy about that and had to wait for the video, to see them myself. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We did no photography just for the ceremony. It worked great I think. We will be sending the link to our wedding photos to people. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

It seems anal to me. But then again I’ve never attended a wedding with poor guest behavior interfering with the professional photographers. I enjoyed all the photos our friends took – one of my very favorites from our wedding was taken by a friend on her phone.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Haruyou:  We had an ‘unplugged’ ceremony, because I didn’t want to walk down the aisle to a sea of phones/cameras; it was really important to us that we could actually see people’s faces. We put a polite note on our wedding website about it, and then the ushers/groomsmen also mentioned it to everyone as they came in. I think one person (the type who has an SLR so thinks they’re a pro)  commented, no-one else had a issue. After that, we were fine with people taking photos; just the ceremony for us was very precious. That could be a compromise worth considering, as I think it will be very difficult to have a whole unplugged wedding, not to mention probably unnecessary. 

As far as the photos go: we have a ‘portal’ where guests can order photos, and we plan on sending one or two photos to our guests, and will be happy to print additional ones if they give us the money; but we won’t be printing unlimited photos for our guests, it’s too expensive. If you do go unplugged throughout I see no need for you to send people prints TBH. But as I said, I think an entirely unplugged wedding is going to be difficult to police, and also probably unnecessary. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

ive never heard of an unplugged wedding only of unplugged ceremony

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Haruyou:  The ‘portal’/gallery is through the photog; we give guests a password and they can log in and view the photos and then choose to buy prints directly from him if they wish. As I said we’ll probably print one or two per guest/couple but that’s it; if people want more they can either buy them from the photog direct,. or give us the money to print them.

I think doing an unplugged ceremony is fine as I said, but I think it may be difficult to do an uplugged first dance/cake cutting; plus I honestly don’t think it’s necessary TBH. If we’d tried to get people not to take photos of the cake cuting/first dance, it would have been really tough as people had been drinking for like 6 hours by then; plus althoiugh I can’t say for sure as we haven’t had the professional pics back yet, I very much doubt it will have impacted on the professional shots; no-one got in the way or anything, and with the first dance, most people videoed (ie no flash) and didn’t take photos.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Haruyou:  Do you have to invite that cousin? Can you ask your father or uncle to talk to him, about the situation? He has the potential to ruin your wedding photos/video, that probably cost $1,000s.

My daughter’s FIL was vehement, that he would do his own videography, even though we hired a professional, and I offered to buy him a DVD. I protested that if he’s standing up and moving around, I may have to pay thousands more, to have him edited out of the photos and video (we hosted – 100%). He arrogantly said that then I would just have to pay thousands more, because he raised his son – blah, blah, blah… My husband and I were furious, that anyone could be that arrogant. He didn’t even sit next to his wife, in the front row, at the ceremony. I can’t believe the entitlement, that some people feel. Thank god he lives 5 hours away …

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