Post # 1
I met with my photographer for the first time today, and he brought up a very interesting subject, and a very common occurrence: having photographs ruined or impeded by Uncle Bobs taking photographs in crucial moments. This can be done in a few ways. Flashes going off, making it difficult to get all the great shots needed (he mentioned missing the first kiss once because someone else’s flash went off), and being physically in the way of a good shot.
I want to encourage photo taking at our wedding, but during appropriate times– mainly after the first dance. I want to do this in maybe one to three ways. 1) put up a politely worded sign requesting they turn off devices. 2) put the request in the program. 3) have our officiant announce it.
The sign I like is below:
How would you feel if you went to a wedding that had this up? What do you think of unplugged ceremonies?
Post # 2
futuremrschristensen: I personally would really like to do this. I think ceremonies should be amazingly special (or sacred, if you’re religious), and I think to see everyone too busy messing around with their phones to pay attention would break my heart. In general, though, I’m not much for photos or posting to social media. I wouldn’t mind a bit to see this sign, even if there are a few people who ignore the notices, it won’t be EVERYONE. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 3
We’re not putting up a notice as the priest said in our meeting that he will tell people to put their phones/cameras away. He thinks its disrespectful of the church and the sacrament of marriage for guests to take photos. Note the photographer can take photos lol. I don’t mind people taking photos after the ceremony and we hope they share them on sites like twitter, instagram and facebook. Well as long as they use the right hashtag lol.
Post # 4
futuremrschristensen: Coming from a photographer, I think it’s fantastic. But I’m probably biased because I combat guest cameras all.day.long. It’s incredibly frustraiting, and not because I don’t want others taking photos but because they are genuinely ruining my shots. During a general reception, sure I can shoot around them. During the first dance, cake cutting, and other key moments? Not a chance. I need to be focusd on the moment, and not the fact that Uncle Bob is in the background between your faces shooting with his cell phone. It really is getting worse and worse over time. And the iPad…oh my gosh the iPads. I have hundreds of wedding images sitting in a file on my desktop titled “shots ruined by guests”. Not even kidding. I honestly do not mind guests taking photos, I really don’t. It’s that these days many seem to have a sense of entitlement that makes them think they are free to (and I’m not exaggerating) literally push me out of the way to get their shot.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I don’t know if you can ask people to turn their devices off AND hope to encourage people to take photos – I suspect that a sign would make it an either/or thing?
Post # 6
We did an unugged ceremony and it was seriously one of the best decisions we made! None of our pro pics have cameras being held up and they all turned out amazing! We just had our officiant mention before the processional that we requested all phones and cameras be turned off.
Post # 7
futuremrschristensen: I’ve been thinking about doing something similar. At least putting something in the program and having our officiant mention it. I remember reading this article and thinking that it is something that I would seriously consider. It’s worth a read.
Post # 8
futuremrschristensen: I have been to one unplugged wedding. I didn’t like how it was put to the guests in that case (we were all sent emails in the weeks leading up basicially being told we could not be trusted to behave like polite human beings and then on the day again told that we needed to be ‘present’ for the ceremony etc. It’s not my wedding – the bride and groom can concern themselvese with being ‘present’, don’t worry about how I am engaging in your ceremony.) but I wouldn’t have an issue if it was said more politely. DH was appalled though and thought it was very rude.
They tried to convince us to go unplugged for ours but we knew that our families would have thought it was very rude that they could not take photos. if someone has taken the time and spent money to travel to our wedding then they can take their photo. The celebrant just asked them to please keep the aisle etc. clear. Plus I like having guest photos of the day too. Our wedding photos are great and were not ruined. We got married outside though where no flash would have been required on any guest photos etc. Yes in one of the photos you can see eg. my sister taking a picture of us during the ceremony. Doesn’t bother me in the slightest. My photog actually (after she took photos of us cutting the cake) took a photo of DH’s mum and all her friends taking photos of us doing the cake cutting. I love it! They were so excited for it and to take a memory of it.
Post # 9
futuremrschristensen: I like the idea of the sign. We’re having our officient make an announcement before the ceremony along the lines of no cell phones and no cameras during the ceremony. We’re having a photographer, but no videographer. During the reception if guests want to take their own photos that’s cool, just not during the ceremony.
Post # 10
futuremrschristensen: i think it’s totally valid in the church / for the ceremony (and maybe during speeches, cake cutting and whatever)… just wondering…
why do the guests have to wait to take pics until after the 1st dance? why can’t people take pics during cocktail hour?
Post # 11
As a guest I have an issuing with someone dictating how I experience an event. If I want to do it through a lens and capture a moment that I want to remember then I should be able to as long as I am not being disruptive to the event.
It also means that as a guest I won’t get to have pictures of your wedding unless I pay out money to the photographer for a copy. No thanks!
We all have obstacles in our jobs and as professionals it is our job to work around them. I am sick of couples using guests as an excuse for ruining pictures. What about when a guest is trying to watch the ceremony and the invasive photographer is snapping away noisly and in the way? When did getting blog worthy pictures become the important thing about a wedding?
Post # 12
futuremrschristensen: Absolutely go for it! My first daughter to marry (2013) had an unplugged ceremony, and it was blissful. Their best man thought it was terrific, since his wedding video was marred by an overzealous cousin, who kept stepping out into the aisle to take photos.
Wish we could have requested it for the 3 special dances and cake cutting, as there were so many people crowded around the dance floor, to photo/video, that most of our guests couldn’t see what was going on (ballroom capacity 300).
My 2nd daughter is marrying in a few months. Her ceremony will also be unplugged. Initially, the groom didn’t understand, until he went to the wedding of my daughter’s friend and it was the opposite of unplugged – lets say “paparazzi invasion,” with the mother of the groom clicking away constantly. They guessed she didn’t see a minute of the ceremony, without a camera lense.
Post # 13
while i like the idea. i think its kind of rude to tell guests what to do.