Post # 1
Hi everyone! My fiance and I could really use some advice. We registered a couple of months ago at Macy’s in anticipation of a wedding shower. The shower is over; and now we’re rethinking the registry. We’re having the wedding near where I grew up (in the middle of upstate NY), and my fiance’s friends and family are all from the west coast, and mine are scattered all over the US. Thus it’s really expensive for most of our guests to get to our wedding. As a result, we feel really bad inviting them and also asking for a present (not to mention feeling bad for expecting presents from guests who don’t show up) – so we’re thinking of un-registering. Is this a bad idea? One person has bought us a waffle iron off of the registry already (and the stupid registry automatically shows up on our wedding website and has been there for two months), and we don’t know who that is and we haven’t received it yet. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland
I would just go ahead and delete the items off your registry- once they are all deleted, if a couple tries to search your name on the Macy’s registry (or from your website), an error message will show up saying that either there is no registry, or that the couple has not yet registered for anything.
We just deleted our Macy’s registry, so I speak from experience
Post # 4
Do you expect presents???? I would say it seems like you don’t, but that you feel bad your family has to travel so far… they don’t have to travel for the wedding, because they don’t have to go.
Don’t unregister. Seriously. If they want to give you a gift in addition to being there for your day, then by all means let them… because those that wanted to get you something, well they might end up giving you a 5 foot x 5 foot golden starburst clock (think circa 1970). Seriously. It happened to my sister.
Post # 5
I would definitely vote do NOT unregister. Speaking as a frequent wedding guest: it is very annoying when people do not have a registry/have very little on the registry. As a bride to be, I know you feel bad people are travelling far, but these people love you and are going to want to get you gifts. Maybe try to adjust your registry to have a lot of less expensive gifts available to people? If you "de-register" people will either have to just randomly buy things or give you cash.
Post # 6
Good point spruce— randomly bought things=no protection of return policy, so if it is weird or the 4th mixer you got… PITA in return processes.
Post # 7
People will give you gifts whether you register or not. If you don’t register, you will get a LOT of crazy random gifts you don’t really want.
Let people buy you gifts you want 🙂
I wouldn’t un-register.
Post # 8
i tried to unregister from macy’s as well, but i just deleted all the stuff off of my registry. my name and account is there still. you probably have to call customer service to be completely removed.
Post # 9
Keep you registry. Also, you can call and say something had been purchased off your registry and you never received it. They should tell you who bought it. But to do that, you might want to wait until after the wedding to avoid ruining the "surprise".
Post # 10
Please keep your registry i will echo the comments made above you will get gifts regardless of if you are registered or not. It is much easier on the guests if you are registered.
I would recommend having a large amount in inexpensive gifts on the registry.
Post # 11
I also vote keep the registry…..people wont purchase things they cant afford. You are not ASKING for gifts by registering. It is simply helpful for those who decide to purchase a gift.