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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    I was invited to the baptism of my cousin's new child. I ended up being guilted into attending. I had a nice time, though.

       I'm not religious, and this was my first baptism. I noticed everyone brought gifts for the new baby/parents. I felt like the biggest jerk in the world. My mom was mortified I did not bring a gift... Am I just stupid? Is it normal to bring baptism presents? I ran out to the store today and bought a gift card to mail.. I still feel like a tacky baptism guest though.

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    well i have never been to a baptism but yeah i do think it is customary  to bring a gft for the new baby.

    Honestly... I wouldnt worry to much about it... im sure the new parents wont.. I honestly cant even tell you everyone who attended things like my baby shower and such and what they game me.... after a few weeks into baby mode ... the parents wont even remember either if they even noticed at all

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I'm pretty sure it's customary, but I think it's kind of silly.

     
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    floridabeachbride    05-28-11   Melbourne, FL

    I been to a couple baptisms and didn't bring a gift nor did other guests. 

    Maybe they were giving more of a baby gift than one for the baptism? I have no clue, or maybe it popular in one religion or church...

     

     

     
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    Every baptism/christening I've been there's been a party after, so everyone brought gifts.  I think if you were just invited to the church then it prob wouldn't be seen as expected.

     
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    Sarah Ritchie       NYC

    Hi Maureen,

    the ladies are right---new moms are too tired and stressed to notice such things as who brought gifts and who didn't.  You can easily rememdy the situation by sending a card with the gift card telling her you forgot to leave the present at the ceremony.  If you really want to impress her, you can figure out when the baby's first birthday is and send a card, reminding her you were at the baptism.

    Take care,

    Sarah

     

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