Post # 1
okay so my wedding is in about 7 months so I have been emailing my bridesmaids the last few months to give updates on the wedding plans and how far along we are. Last month I picked out a dress and emailed it to everyone. I sent a follow-up email the next week with the price and different stores it can be purchased. Most of my bridesmaids are in different states so i figured it was a nice gesture to find out stores near everyone to save them the hassle.
I have not heard back from one of the bridesmaids at all! i even called and texted her to try to get in contact. It takes a few months for the dress to come in plus time for alterations so I want to make sure everyone gets it on time.
The worst part of it all is that this bridesmaid is my fiance’s sister— so what do i do?? He has tried calling her too and she is not answering him either.
I hope I am not being too dramatic but time flys .
any advice will help 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
Hmmm that is a tuffy :-/
Has your fiance tried asking his mom what is going on with her?
Post # 4
I have had this problem before as well, both being a bride and being a maid of honor for someone else. I’m sooo sorry you are having difficulties with her. It may seema little underhanded but what I did is had someone completely different contact her–like her mother and relay the message that we had tried to reach her and were worried about her and wondering if she still wanted to be involved since things were starting to pick up and we needed her repsonse. Maybe if it is someone she does not expect to discuss wedding stuff with her she may pick up the phone.
Post # 5
I second Ms. Frenchie’s advice. Get his mom involved!
Post # 6
HA! Try not being able to get in contact with a BM when the BM dress needs to be picked up and the wedding is less than 3 weeks away! Phone calls, texts, e-mails and no response. I finally got the dress myself and went over to her house unannounced. Turns out she is knee-deep in babyland (has a 4 month old) – which, IMO, is no excuse for not getting back to me over the course of several weeks. Then it turned out she really didn’t respond because she can’t afford the dress (only $42!). So I told her that I paid for the dress and not to worry about it. I have already bought her jewelry, flowers and dress, now all she has to do is show up for the rehearsal and the wedding. Now is is complaining the dress is too loose (just around the shoulders), but earlier she had bragged how her Mother is an expert seamstress. Too bad, if she had responded honestly about her situation in a timely manner, the dress could have been returned and replaced, but with the wedding 16 days away, there is no longer time and I am not worrying about it!
Post # 7
I would let his Mom know asap….. and say it apologetically "I’ve tried to text and call ____ but haven’t made contact, has her cell phone number changed?"
Then the mom can make a choice as to how much she wants to get involved…..and take your lead there.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for your advice so far. His mom acutally emails me everyday so I might just ask her if her daughter’s phone number or email have changed etc. and then maybe she will talk to her. Thanks for the idea.
I don’t want to be mean but i think it is just rude! I wish people would just be honest instead of just ignoring the situation. I also wrote in one of my emails that if someone could not afford the dress, me and my fiance would buy it for them so there is not really an excuse. I feel like if someone accepts being a bridesmaid they should understand that communicating with the bride is essential.
Thanks again everyone.