Unsolicited 'advice'

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

lol, how can you assume you look cheap? Please tell me what cheap looks like!

@barbie86:  

Post # 4
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4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@barbie86:  I’m sure you don’t look cheap!  I am also guilty of assuming everyone is on a budget and passing along such tips.  Then I check out a brides other posts and see she’s in a super expensive dress and feel like an ass – whoops!

Also, I LOOOVE TJMAXX! LOL

Post # 6
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1243 posts
Bumble bee

@barbie86:  It sounds like people are just trying to be helpful and you should just thank them and forget about it.

Post # 7
Member
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@barbie86:  People are just trying to help by offer inexpensive alternatives to what you already have. Ia gree it is terribly annoying but it doesn’t get any better. Unless you decline talking any wedding with anyone they will put in their two cents. I am finding it especially hard while pregnant, even harder than when I was planning my wedding becuase with that I had it all figured out and just told people, “We’ve decided on____.” But I hardly discussed it with people in real life. I hardly discuss pregnancy, but somehow people still want to make sure you know that they know better than you.

Post # 8
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135 posts
Blushing bee

I think wedding planning just makes people nostalgic.  Try to take it as people want to be helpful.  It gets hard to find creative ways to take a conversational interest in the bride’s life without offering ideas.  After “congrats” what else do people talk about for the year leading up to the wedding?  They’re at least trying to acknowledge that it’s something major on your horizon.

Post # 9
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3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I have found in life when you talk about something with others it leads them to offer their opinion. If you aren’t wanting opinions I would keep wedding talk to a minimum, and keep it vague and then change the subect.

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