- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
We went out to dinner last night with my father and his wife. They brought up the subject of our wedding.
My father has been really campaigning for us to plan something for ALL the guests the night before the wedding with us there, and then an after-party after we leave. I’m against it because (a) the wedding feels too expensive anyway; (b) we picked our hotel block etc. so that out-of-towners would not have to rent a car; (c) traffic is HORRIBLE Friday nights, and we’d either have to book a banquet room at a downtown restaurant for hundreds and hundreds of dollars or rent some sort of bus-van for hundreds of dollars; (d) FI and I hate being the center of attention and several hours MORE of it doesn’t sound fun at all. As for an after-party, our idea is that the guests could plan for that amongst themselves. His family could see each other, our family could do the same, and our non-related friends can tourist around the city by themselves if they’re just in for the weekend. Regardless, we will be leaving in a Rolls from the wedding and I consider that the end of our obligation to be entertaining.
THEN I was talking to his wife about how we bought the kids favors that should help keep them from getting bored. I was pretty proud of coming up with the idea, but she thought I should have the littlest cousin hand out carnations as guests enter (it is NOT EASTER SERVICE!) even though her mother is concerned she’ll get seasick. More $$ for carnations and that’s the sort of foofy thing I would never do.
For my birthday, my middle sister gave me modern Liberace silver candleabras, for my reception. One, I don’t have a dining room. Two, we’re getting married on a boat, and they don’t allow open flame. Three—really??
We are having a casual wedding and I think everyone will feel disappointed and underentertained. All this makes me want to forfeit the deposits and elope. What’s irritating is that FI, who has been quite vocal about what he doesn’t want and foofiness, doesn’t seem irritated about this as much as me. I think it’s our wedding and the only words I should hear from my relatives is How-can-we-help.
End of rant. 🙂