Unspecial Wedding Night?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
857 posts
Busy bee

Just put your foot down and say not happening, sorry. I’d feel a bit upset about that.  It would make the day a bit less special. 

Post # 3
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

While reading your post I was thinking that that’s the only hotel within >hours of your location, but 45 minutes!? Absolutely I’d be booking that nicer hotel. 45 minutes is nothing.

Post # 4
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t think you’re a brat, it’s a special occassion. If it’s not tipping you into debt then get the nicer hotel room.

If you’re spending the week with immediate family you need to treasure and make the most of any alone time you can squeeze in.

Talk to him! Make it clear what it would mean to you.

Post # 5
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would just talk to your FI about how you feel. Explain to him your concerns.

Although I will tell you that the wedding night isn’t typically what you see in movies. Everyone I know passed out right when they got back to their room on their wedding nights. My husband and I stayed up drinking/talking with family and friends and then ordered pizza 1am, ate it and passed out (which was ok with me). Lol. So if your wedding night isn’t super romantic just know that you’re definitely not alone.

Post # 6
7940 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

You speak about these plans like you had zero involvement in them. If you don’t want to tourist around NZ the week after with family- don’t. If you dont want to stay in a motel (I sure as hell wouldn’t) don’t. And if you’d rather stay in bed naked with your new husband than go to some family brunch: just do it.

You need to stop pleasing everyone but yourself!

Post # 7
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah, I understand your feelings on this. If it were me, I’d simply make a reservation where I wanted to go, and tell him to deal with it. But, my FI knows how I am and would deal just fine. 

This is your wedding night, it should feel special and amazing.

Post # 9
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You could also think about a way to make the night special in the motel? On our wedding night we bought a really expensive bottle of champagne, and after the reception we sat up most of the night drinking champagne, and just talking/cuddling, etc. It was honestly my favourite part of the whole day 🙂

Post # 10
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Zephi:  I bet you wouldn’t mind staying 10 mins from home IF it was a great place and not some “motor court” motel, right? You take the reins, find a better spot and book it. I do not think you are being unreasonable.

Post # 12
2145 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You should totally drive the 45 minutes to a nicer hotel! You won’t regret the distance. That really isn’t a big deal. I feel your introvert pain haha! So do what you need to do 🙂

Post # 14
361 posts
Helper bee

Zephi:  so excited for you making the decision on the nicer hotel.  It will be such a special night and you shouldn’t have to compromise on that :). Btw, you didn’t sound like a brat at all.  🙂 

Post # 15
3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Happy for you too! Have a great wedding night!

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