(Closed) Unsupportive BM

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
56 posts
Worker bee

I had the EXACT same issue AND I just kicked her out. It got to the point where I worried about my wedding day and what drama she was going cause.  I feel 100000% better and I am not worried at all anymore.  SOmetimes it is the right thing to do when someone just can be happy and supportive.

Post # 4
Member
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I had 2 bridesmaids just like this!  OMG, it’s like I wrote this.  Except, I had to find a second dress because they both didn’t order the dress in time for the wedding. One of them said she didn’t like the first dress anyway so she was glad… she never said she didn’t like it when we were in the store.  The other one didn’t even attend the bachelorette party that she was originally going to help plan.  She went on a trip out of the country instead.  So frustrating.  I didn’t kick them out because I didn’t have the time beforehand.  My husband wanted to kick them out for me.  I ended up just letting it go.  One of them hasn’t spoken to me since then.  Go figure.  If you have the time, reevaluate.

Post # 5
Member
56 posts
Worker bee

@arose29: I kicked her out 3 weeks before the wedding…. It was hard to do but it got to the point where I knew I would never talk to her again ever after the wedding and I didn’t want someone who wasn’t happy for me at my wedding and in my party and photos….

My wedding is on Saturday and I have now 1 BM and a MOH and I am perfectly fine with my choice because I know they are as happy as I am 🙂

Post # 6
Member
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

if she doesn’t like your FI, why do you want her to stand up at your wedding with you?

Post # 7
Member
28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have one BM like this..unfortunitly it is my sister…remind her that you would love her to be part of the wedding but she can choose to follow what you asked of her or not be part of the bridesmaids.  Sounds harsh but sometimes thats all that works.  you dont need more stress than you already have.

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