- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I have just started planning our wedding this month, and I am already getting really upset and discouraged.
My fiancé and I are not big wedding people, both feel like its more important to focus on the marriage and not one day. We are still planning a wedding (more for our parents), but it will be small, mostly family and a few close friends. We decided that we really want our puppy to be a part of our wedding, and will have him at the ceremony and in some pictures.
Now here is where the family problems come in. Everytime I say anything about the wedding to my sister, she has something negative to say. Why would you have the dog there, why would you even consider a Sunday wedding…. Or just shows no interest at all. I don’t bring up the wedding much, but she NEVER asks me anything. It’s like it doesny matter at all to her that I am getting married.
And my mother….. Same deal, doesn’t ask me a single thing. I should probably mention, I was engaged before and broke it off… He just wasn’t the right man for me….. This was 4 years ago, But my mom still looks him up on Facebook, saves pictures of his wedding, his new baby, his family. She cares more about his life then what is going on in mine.
I don’t feel like my wedding is important to anyone at all. No one bothers to ask me about planning, ideas, anything. And if mention anything about it, I get negative comments or it gets brushed off. I don’t undertand why I am being treated this way. My fiancés family is the opposite, they ask us all the time, they have offered money to help out, offered suggestions/help planning, and just seem to care.
This is making me so upset and I am considering just going to city hall and getting the wedding part over with. I didn’t want the big wedding but I did want a day to celebrate our marriage and have family together who love us and care about us.
This is so frustrating. I figured it would make my mom and I closer, even my sister and I. But it’s doing the opposite. Anyone dealt with unsupportive/ uninterested family?