- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
First let me ask, what kind of parent doesn’t want their kid to be everything that they can be?!? I just don’t get it.
Last night, we had a cookout with my SO’s parents. (A late Memorial Day cookout because neither of us had the holiday off and apparently we have to celebrate EVERY SINGLE holiday with them, no matter how insignificant…but that’s another rant!) Anyway, so here is pretty much how the conversation went…
FFIL: I don’t think you should rent for more than another year.
Me: Well, we really don’t see any reason to buy a house until (SO) graduates. I can get a job anywhere with my degree, so we’ll really be going where his degree takes us.
FFIL (to SO): Well, I think you have a good job at _____. I really don’t see any reason you would leave there.
Me: No he doesn’t. It’s an entry level job that pays $10/hr and he has worked every single holiday in the three years we’ve been together. He’s half way through school. Why would he stay there?
SO: Yeah. Why would I stay at a company where I have no room to move up, work 6-7 days a week, and never get to see my family?
FFIL: Well, I just don’t see you outside of ____ County. All of your friends and family are here. I don’t think you guys really fit in a bigger city.
SO: NONE of my friends are here, my brother is not here, the only family I have here is you two. Why would I put all this time and money into school just to stay here where I will likely not be able to find a job in my field, anyway?
FFIL: I just don’t see why you’d mess up a good thing. You’ve got a good job here.
It pretty much went in circles from there with some other insignificant arguments about why we needed to stay put. It’s just so frustrating! We’ve had this discusion before and I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t want more for his kid than the factory life that he and SO’s mom have lived. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but when my SO is trying to better himself (and completely out of our pockets…they aren’t paying for any of it), I don’t see why he wouldn’t be proud. I just hate the statements like a previous one of, “Well, I just don’t see you being an office type person. I just think you fit better in factories.” I know that part of it is that they just don’t want us to move far away since his brother plans on moving across the country. But as of right now, our plan is to move one state away which will be about a 6 hour drive. I don’t know how to continue arguing this same point everytime they bring it up without getting angry at the lack of support.