Post # 1
For those of you who have been reading my posts you will already know that I got engaged this weekend! Everyone we told seemed completely happy and supportive of us except for my Future Brother-In-Law. Its been 2 days and he hasn’t called, texted or so much as e-mail us with his congratulatory remarks. How rude is that??? I know he just went through a recent breakup but come on…does that mean that he can’t be happy for us. I feel like this is a casting a dark cloud over a rainbow. How disappointing 🙁
Post # 3
my brother is like that, caught up in his own world. Took him a week to reply but hes a happy chappy. hes just absent minded in returning texts and calls. Apparently he read the message thought to himself oh cool and then never replied.
So i wouldnt fret yet! might be a valid reason!
Post # 4
I wouldn’t take it personally – some people just don’t get excited about weddings or something. My Future Brother-In-Law got engaged before Christmas to his gf and he never called to say anything – we found out through my Future Mother-In-Law. We have tried to call him multiple times (and left messages) telling him congrats, but he has yet to return our phone call (my Fiance has mentioned it to his mother, and she doesn’t think that Future Brother-In-Law is upset at us or anything, he just doesn’t like to stay in contact with people).
Perhaps your Future Brother-In-Law just doesn’t realize the importance of engagements.
Post # 5
Update: Future Brother-In-Law gave my FI wishy washy congratulatory wishes….with some negative commentary along the lines of getting married young is high risk. His dad also seems to be angry that Fiance didn’t consult him. We are both 23…I don’t think that is too young to get engaged.
Post # 6
Don’t let him rain on your parade congrads on the engagement! I think EVA is right he probably doesn’t understand the importance of an engagement annoucement. You aren’t too young either.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you’re not getting the response you want from the family. At least you know that all the WB girls are excited for you! 🙂
I would just suggest to maybe read this recent thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/no-one-will-ever-care-about-your-wedding-as-much-as-you-do
as it’s helpful to see that a lot of others feel the same disappointment, and that it is best for your sanity to accept that your engagement really isn’t all that exciting for others. (Not said in a snarky way, so please don’t take offense.)
Post # 8
It sounds like he’s a little caught up in his own relationship falling apart… honestly I wouldn’t worry about it too much, just smile and brush it off for now and hopefully he’ll cut it out when he realizes he’s not getting a reaction out of you.
Post # 9
@jhphi…thanks for the link. Reading that helped me feel better… I guess I should be thankful that most people are happy for us instead of dwelling on one selfish bastard!