Post # 1
My FI had my ring made and I absolutely love it! However, the beautiful peek-a-boo diamonds he put on the sides I think are going to prevent me from wearing a wedding band up against my e-ring once we get married. I’m a little torn as what to do. I know not all gals even get wedding bands, but there is just something about it that if I don’t have one it’ll be weird for me. Is that wrong?
Another reason I don’t want to cover up the peek-a-boos, those two small diamonds are from his grandmother’s wedding ring! FI never got to meet his grandmother because she passed away when he was only 2, but there are photos of them together reading books 🙂
I also know most times women get their rings sodered together so the rings don’t spin against each other and wear down the bands/prongs. I also have engraving/etching (whatever you call it!) on all sides of the band and I don’t want those to wear away. I’ve provided a picture and would like your thoughts.
Also, if you are in the same situation, post a pic and maybe we can all give some ideas!! [attachment=247070,27381] [attachment=247070,27382]
Post # 3
can you wear your e-ring on your right hand and your band on your left? I am probably going to do that and have noticed a lot of girls doing that lately. it looks nice!
Post # 4
juniper22: You know, I’ve thought about that, but I guess I hadn’t considered it too much. Still have my head wrapped around the idea of both of them on the same hand. ::sigh:: HAHA I’m difficult.
Post # 5
hey Curly, I think you can find a wedding band that is ‘thin’ enough to sit under the peek-a-boo’s.
Sigh, I know you have seen my ering and bands, but what you cant see is how thin they actually are. I have this beautiful detailing on the outside of the ring like yours and I didnt want to cover it up either but as soon as I started to try on different bands I saw what ones worked better.
Have you started to look at bands yet? I say start looking at some, look at those bands that are reduculously thin and see if it covers up the peek-a-boos. If you cant find one, then you can either go sans wedding band, or maybe wear the band and your ering on your left hand like was also suggested.
Post # 6
I have a similar ring, with peek-a-boo diamonds, and I had honestly not even thought about this. IMO, no one ever really sees the detailing along that side or the diamond anyway.. so I’m just fine having a band that covers up one side. As long as you only have one band, you’ll still be able to see the detailing and diamond on the other side. I know that doesn’t help with the sentimentality of it, but I know that I personally want to wear both rings on the same finger. As long as they’re not soldered together, you’ll still be able to slide them apart and look at the diamond whenever you want 🙂 Or as chantellamus mentioned above, maybe you’ll be able to find a band that’s thin enough!
Post # 7
Have you talked to your jeweler? They probably have some suggestions and examples for you.
Post # 8
@Chantellamus: I think the picture is deceiving, there isn’t much of any space from the bottom of the peek-a-boo to the bottom so I’m not sure even the thinest band would work. The diamond literally is almost on my finger that’s how much space there isn’t left! HAHA We’ll see what we come up with.
@lemilie: I thought about that too, not soldering the rings, but it was highly discouraged by the jeweler. They see more problems with wearing of the rings on each other from sliding around so soldering is the way to go–unless they slide into one another as a set that were bought together or something.
@tessabella76: FI did speak with the gal who helped him design the ring; unfortunately even she said more than likely I will not have a band with this type of ring due to the details and stuff. The ring is not made by a brand name designer so there isn’t a ring out there that was made to fit with it. The setting came from a vendor somewhere and then FI had them alter the sides by having the tiny diamonds inserted as peek-a-boos. I would think that if there was a band that would match up the jeweler would have mentioned that…who knows. We go next week.
I know I sound so negative ladies, I’m sorry, it’s just hard to put everything into words sometimes. Thank you for your suggestions! I’ll let you know what I come up with.
Post # 9
I have a similar(ish) kind of ring (minus the diamonds) and a similar dilemma. I wrote about it over here (http://jessicalynnwrites.blogspot.com/2009/06/with-this-ring.html) if you wanna check it out, maybe there will be something that will work out for yours!
Post # 10
@jesstagirl: Thanks! I’m on my way!
Post # 11
Your ring is gorgeous What are those blue stones? I would suggest wearing that ring on your right hand. I am debating about whether to do that or not. If not, you could get a curved ring that goes around it.
Post # 12
I’m going to wear my engagement ring on my left hand, (since I’m already so used to it being there) and my wedding ring on my right hand.
Problem solved (in my world) 😉
Post # 13
You can certainly add a band. I have at least two ideas. Your ring is in a way similar to mine….mostly in that it has the engraving on the sides.
My ring is a 1930’s and finding a band was near impossible…so we had my band custom made to match my ring and his ring custom made to match my band and ring. I don’t have a photo of his ring but have attached my photos.
So, I could say that you might just look at a custom band and my two ideas for this are to have a band that matches your e-ring, that is they can keep the band really low so that you can see the diamonds in the band or possible even have one of those band where the e-ring slides between two bands that are mounted together in back and end up craddling the ering. Any good jeweler will be able to work with your ring.
Also, the cost on my band was around $550 for white gold, his band was $1200 (but his hands are bigger and so is his ring).
My photos certainly don’t do my ring or the process justice but what can I say….I am at working using the photo option on my mac.
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Post # 14
@CarbonGirl: Thank you 🙂 The stones on either side of the diamond are my birthstone–aquamarine–and then next to those (the three small ones) are FI’s birthstones of sapphires. It was my idea to put the colors together since they are in the blue family, but it was all him how they ended up!
@doctorgirl: Good point. I just read the other day that in some countries, I think in Europe, that they wear their e-ring/wedding bands on the right ring finger not like us here in the US. Interesting!
@mizunoheaven: Thanks! Oh and I love your ring! I’ll see what the jeweler says. I was wanting some ideas to give them when we go in next week. So far, finding anything online is a little hard.
Post # 15
My ring has diamonds on the side, as well. I really don’t want to hide them! I’ve decided to wear the e-ring on my right hand after the wedding, and just have a plain band for the left hand.
Post # 16
Am I the only one in the world who thinks wearing my engagement ring as my wedding ring is fine? I’m not getting an extra ring.
Your ring is beautiful. I can see why you wouldn’t want to cover up the sides.