Post # 1
So here’s a few questions that I would love some opinions on….
* My fiancee and I have been together for almost 9 years already, we have a house, children, car, even the family dog…. do we have to register for wedding gifts ? I say no – other people say yes… we pretty much have everything we need so what would I register for ???? Home Depot gift cards ???? :/
* A bridal shower…. and a bachelorette party…. again – I don’t think I need either of these… I know they are “tradition” to have them, but again – we don’t need anything…
Thoughts and opinions would be great – I’m not sure how to nicely say I’m not interested…. or if I go through with one or all of the above to humor everyone – where do I draw the line…. it seems so silly, but I would hate for people to waste their time and money…
Post # 3
@ccfwwedding: You could do a honeymoon registry or just register for wedding china. FI didn’t have a bachelor party and I only had a small get together with my 3 close friends. I don’t think any of it is necessary!
Post # 4
@ccfwwedding: people are going to want to buy you gifts. You can do a honeymoon registry or register for “fun” items- a new grill, gardening things, even electronics. These days there are really no rules to registering. If people dont want to buy those items they will probably just send cash, but everyone likes the option of buying you a gift!
Post # 5
If you aren’t interested in it then just say NO. Simple. And you don’t have to register at all.
Post # 6
It might be helpful for some guests to do a small registry – maybe if you need home repairs you can do a Home Depot registry, or if there’s something you have that needs replacing like China or cookware – or a honeymoon registry, but otherwise you could just tell people to spread the word that you aren’t registering if asked.
As far as the bach parties go, you definitely don’t need those. My best friend and her husband were already married (small courthouse wedding) 2 years prior to their big wedding, so they just went out for dinner and drinks with a small group of friends and left it at that.
Post # 7
The parties are a celebration of your marriage, not the # of years you’ve been together. People may want to give gifts and I think the registry helps give direction. Don’t put a whole lot on there, but then they might get you a gift card there. I didntvwant a shower, but that was what my mom wanted. In my case, she got to have thecparty she wanted to show her love to me (or maybe your bridal party wants to do that for you). You can have a combined party to share with everyone rather than separate… Jack and Jill shower, bachelor/bachelorette combo
Post # 8
@ccfwwedding: You definitely do not have to register for anything. But know that people will want to give you physical gifts, or at least some of your guests will. Some will probably give cash or cheques if you have a small or limited registry. But there are so
I would suggest doing a small registry for those that want to give a physical gift.
You definitely do not have to have a shower or a bachelorette party. You could also do a bridal luncheon, if you want to have the social aspect without the expectation of gifts.
Post # 9
You could do a in leiu of gifts make a donation to ( insert organization name), it could be the local animal shelter or heart disease, just something that means something to the two of you. People tend to spend a little less and your favorite charity gets support 🙂
Post # 10
thanks everyone ! great ideas and suggestions ~ I am definately going to talk it over with my other half and see what he likes the best 🙂