(Closed) Unwanted Guest

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think there is much you can do.  It is the best mans wife so she has to be invited.

Maybe you can put the rest of the bridal party on patrol to make sure she doesn’t bother you? 

Post # 4
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It’s a huge bummer, but she’s his wife. There is sadly no polite way to not invite her. I agree with Caszos, get a friend to baby sit her!

Post # 5
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5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Unfortunately, they’re married, you have to invite her. It is just not proper not to. Don’t worry, you’ll be so busy enjoying your day you will not even notice she’s there!

Post # 6
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just ignore her on that day. Theres not much else that can be done in this situation.

Post # 8
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

It completely sucks, but you can’t get around not inviting her. And there’s no nice way to ask the BM “Hey, do you mind leaving your wife at home?” Eesh. Grin and bear it. Hopefully you’ll be so busy having FUN on your wedding day she won’t even be a problem. Let her pout in the corner.

Post # 9
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4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

My only advice is not to let her get to you. If you have to talk to her on your wedding day, appoint a friend to pull you and your husband away within X number of seconds. You can’t get around inviting her, so just get around interacting with her.

Post # 10
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4804 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Here’s hoping she “doesn’t feel like going” to your wedding Tongue out

No seriously though, that sucks!  I’m sure you’ll enjoy your day anyways and don’t listen to anything she says.

Post # 11
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988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You have to invite her but you don’t have to communicate with her.  Get an army of BMs and friends to protect you and let them take care of her if she gets close to you. Trust me, with the amount of other wonderful guests, you will be able to avoid her.  You have to emotionally distract from her and don’t allow her to take up space in your mind on your wedding day.  Good luck 🙂 

Post # 12
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

As the others said you have to invite her.  You can not invite one half of a married couple and not the other.  And just FYI.. if you had a large engagement party, you actually should be inviting all of those guests to your wedding.  It’s not right to invite people to pre wedding events and not to the wedding itself.

Post # 13
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971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Sorry but she comes with the territory (aka best man).  Sucks, I know.  I agree with what others said and just ignore her and have your “posse” with you at all times whenever she attempts to descend on you! 

In the meantime, maybe you could always try to convince DH that there’s a better Best Man candidate out there ….

 

Post # 14
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33 posts
Newbee

Even though your wedding will be intimate, can you have assigned seating and sit her as far away as possible from you?

Post # 15
Member
759 posts
Busy bee

I agree with the PPs, you have to invite her. I would just avoid her like the plague during your wedding, and ignore her if you happen to bump into anytime throughout the day.  There’s not much else you can do.

Post # 16
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with the others. Have several friends on the look out so they can interupt if you somehow get stuck talking to her. Kill her with kindness, but avoid her as much as possible!  Sorry 🙁 

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