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i just want to vent. I had a super long rushed day today involving taking bro to the airport early in the morning, rushing to work, after my half day at work rushed to my appointment at the post office to apply for my passport and then rushing over to my friends house to get ready for her wedding rehearsal (wedding's tomorrow.) I just got home and on the table gleaming at me were a few more RSVPs. I happily opened them and saw that one was a family member of FI whom I adore. The other was my old boss and his wife that I frequently keep in touch with. Here comes the third one. FSIL's so called boyfriend AND HIS MOTHER! WTF?!?! Did i miss something here???? FI and said it was ok for his sister to bring a date. We have no problem with that. But somehow he got a formal invitation from us. I have NEVER met this guy before but i have met his mother once or twice. she was a rehab friend of FSIL. Nice family i'm marrying into right? LOL I am so pissed off right now! I had to go down the list (and fiance also) to cut off people we've known for years so this bitch can invite her friend from rehab and her "boyfriend??!" One guest was enough but i don't even know her! I can not believe how inconsiderate people are! we've explained to her that we're paying for the wedding and it's expensive. *side note: she is the problem child in the family and everything she wants she gets. FI's family kisses her ass. She doesn't know what "expensive" means because everybody takes care of her.

I would love to wake up FI right now and let him have it! I don't know if he was in on this but it doesn't seem right b/c he cut off people he cares about to make the list smaller. His sister i do not trust AT ALL. It's a whole story that i can't get into right now. She was at our house when FI was putting the invites together. Either FI let her take some or she just helped herself to a few. She's been known to steal money and credit cards from her own family members so I wouldn't put it pass her to take invitations. What do i do??? Should I let FI handle it? I'm afraid he's too easy going to take care of this. I just hate this so much. Who gives you the right to invite your own friends to our wedding??? Bare in mind that I do not care of this particular sister at all and FI knows it. He'll probably think I'm just picking on her. Please help!

Wow - I'd be super furious and angry too.  She not only invited unwanted guests, but she stole an invitation to do it?!  What should you do - well, I would WANT to wake up my FI, and between his grumpiness from being woken up, plus my anger - we'd end up in a fight... so I am recommending you do not wake him up! :) 

You and your FI are a team.  Remember his sister is the problem, not him.  Face this problem together... I'm too tired to think of more advice, but just don't wake him up and the two of you can talk about this tomorrow.

Good luck!  And again I am really sorry - this situation is awful. 

I don't get it....the RSVP was from her with their names on it as well?  Did you specifically write everyone's names on the RSVPs?  Maybe she didn't necessarily steal it....but anyway, the point is, this woman is not invited to the wedding, and your FI needs to tell her that.  flat out.  or did he tell her its okay?

enmoore: sooooooooo close to waking him up but i knew it wouldn't solve anything. I layed in bed 'til I fell asleep as I need to be well rested and look presentable for today's wedding

dreambml:  Sister lives with the rest of his family so we just sent one invite to thier house with all five names. A few weeks ago FI told me that Sister asked if she could bring a date. I said sure I don't see why not. We never sent Sister a seperate invite with "and Guest." So I still don't get how Sister's date got a seperate invitation and was allowed to bring his own guest. I know FI told his Sister that she can bring a date but nowhere did he mention her date wanting to bring his own guest. Sister is friends with ALL of FI's friends too so it's not like she's not going to know anybody. Bottom line IT's OUR WEDDING. 

Krista: I would like to think he did not take any part in this b/c he himself took people off his list that's he's known for years. As in HS, Junior High and Elementary school. How is that fair to him?? He's sister is the most selfish person I know (other happenings besides this wedding.)

I am definitely putting my foot down.   

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