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    weightwatchers152    July 27, 2012  

    I know I'm not engaged yet, but I have been lurking on this site for a little while reading all of the posts and this looks to be a great place!

    My boyfriend has informed me that he will be proposing this upcoming weekend! (We had picked out a ring at the end of December).

    I am so excited but there is one interesting point. My boyfriend is asking me if there is a particular way he should propose. We have always talked about everything in advance (he informed me so that I could inform my parents of where I will be staying the night). He is nervous, and he says he doesn't want to disappoint me. I have been dreaming of this engagement for months, but now I don't know what to tell him. Outside by a lake? Inside the Victorian like restaurant/hotel? I want to tell him that it should be his decision. I have always dreamed it would be after dinner in a beautiful restaurant, but that's not exactly private and then I couldn't give him a special kiss. There is something romantic about it being just the two of us as well. I can't decide! Should I leave it up to him and tell him to surprise me? I don't think I will be let down either way because I love him so much....

     

     
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    ChiBride09    May 31, 2013   Chicago

    Tell him that he should do it however he sees fit...  You could also direct him here: 

    http://boards.weddingbee.com/board/proposals

    Or tell him to Google proposals so he can get some good ideas!  Congrats and good luck!  Hehe.  :)

     
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    claireos    September 8, 2012   Maryland

    I never thought about how I wanted to be proposed to much. But I knew what I didn't want to happen. I knew I didn't want family and friends there - long story. So, since I knew having them there would take away from the moment I told him in advance that I didn't care what he did so long as my family wasn't present. 

    Trust me. You want him to do this on his own. You'll want to look back and be in awe with how creative he was. There is nothing better than hearing him say he incorporated something because he remembered you mentioned you loved it years ago. It makes it so much more special and keeps the moment it happens a secret. If you have something that you wouldn't be happy with or without, let him know, but leave it at that. 

    Pre-congrats! This is very exciting!

     
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    batwoman       Spokane

    Why not give him a list of things that you would love and things that you wouldn't like? That way you get to be surprised and he gets to pick something he feels safe with.

     
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    li612    May 18, 2013   arlington, va

    tell him to surprise you! all i really told my FI was that i would be mad if it was around a bunch of people.  granted, i knew he was buying the ring/would propose when he got it a few days later, but I didn't want to know at all exactly what he was going to do & was still surprised.

     
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    Monkeyface    August 20, 2011  

    I'm for telling him to take care of it on his own so you have more of a surprise. Since you already know he is doing it, let him take care of the planning. 

     
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    future_schu    November 10, 2012   New Jersey

    I did tell my FI that I wanted to be surprised- but I also told him how I would LOVE for it to happen.

    I told him that it would be perfect if it happened on a holiday while my family was there... I don't get to see my entire family very often (maybe 3 times a year) and I thought it would be nice.

    He did it the exact way I had said. Family around on Christmas, after presents were opened... I might have not been fully surprised, but I didn't know it was coming that soon!

     
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    MissTX    May 17, 2013   Texas

    Unless you have an exact idea in mind...give him options/ideas and let it go from there. I think it's crazy/cute when the men tell the women "hey I'm proposing next month" etc. Gets you all anxious lol You'll probably be able to pin point the moment because he will get all nervous haha. CONGRATULATIONSSSSSS!!! :D Post pics and details yayyy

     
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    BayStateBride    September 1, 2012   Cow Hampshire (wedding in MA)

    If it were me then I'd tell him that he needs to figure out how to propose on his own. I wouldn't want to plan my own proposal. It would take away from the excitement and anticipation of wondering when it's going to happen.

    P.S. EEEEEEEEEEE! How exciting!

     

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