Post # 1
Wedding is coming up in July…
I’m litterally having nightmares that no one shows up…that it’s just me and my FI and a few family members that show up at the church…and that my reception is a total flop.
You see, I scheduled my destination wedding in Mexico 2 years ago…my family is all there and I thought it would be fun to keep it around 100 people…do it in a small church, etc. Well, then everything bad starts happening in mexico and the prices to fly there just skyrocketed. On top of that we really wanted a wedding in July but my cousin kinda dropped the ball and all the saturdays got taken up…but she assured us doing it on a Friday would be no problem, no different and people do it all the time, so we went for a friday…. but now I’m getting all these second hand comments that it’s inconvinient and that people might not be able to come to the ceremony…only the reception.
I just can’t stop worrying about it…I know my family and friends there will make it,….but now I have my little wedding party fro the U. S. (4 bm’s, 4 gm’s) begining to complain about the prices to fly…and one of them even backed out already. On top of that my father and my mother-in law are acting like they haven’t known about this for 2 years and are saying they are broke…so now I have to sacrifice my honeymoon to get them there.
I know I should just roll with things…and it will be ok if I have to make some sacrifices, but one thing I don’t want is a wedding that no one shows up too.
OH..and I shant forget my mom is wanting to leave my stepfather…and she’s having a nervous breakdown in the meantime..and can’t seem to muster up any excitement..I realize we are all entitled to go through our life problems and have nervous breakdowns…but this is so not ideal.
Post # 3
Aw hang in there! I never knew wedding planning was so stressful either. In the end, the people who care about you the most will find a way to be there. You shouldn’t worry about the folks who don’t show up. Some people consider weddings to be a free-for-all party, but it’s so much sweeter and intimate to have your closest friends and family there with you.
If it makes you feel any better, I’m in similar shoes as you. Our wedding is on a Sunday 20th, and we set the date a year in advance thinking it wouldnt be an issue for family with such advance notice. Both FI and I told his mom the date multiple times. Come to find out two months before the wedding, his mom had been telling the family the date was Saturday the 19th. He only has a handful of family in the states, and the ones that are here are all doctors who have to put in. vacation time half a year in advance. His grandfather recently passed, so they already had to pull strings to attend his funeral. Now his relatives are saying they’re not attending, and his parents are skipping out onthe reception so that his dad can catch a flight early enough to get home and be well-rested for work. All the while, his family is blaming us for having a Sunday wedding. WTF! (1) we’re paying for it and Sunday was easier on our budget, (2) we flippin told her a year in advance so its her fault for not following up and assuming, and (3) why does she have to skip out early just because her husband has to? At the very least, she owes it to FI to stay since it was her mistake. FI is so bummed that his family isnt even making a strong effort to attend.
I swear these issues only happen to foreigners! Everything will work out in the end though. I told FI the same thing I told you – not to worry about the folks who don’t make the effort to be there. And hope everything works out with your mom!
Post # 4
@GeorgiaTeacup: Thanks alot…I don’t feel like the only one anymore. I’m getting so many people saying they won’t make it…random excuses, blablah. I don’t even want to hear the excuses, although I’m sure they are all legitimate, I just would rather people just tell me they won’t be able to make it, instead I get the burden of everyone’s sob stories about scheduling, health problems, families not wanting them to travel in mexico, money problems. I seriously understand and don’t need to know everyones personal promblems…but you can’t tell people that so instead I get to listen and feel like crap in the meantime.
As far as not doing a saturday wedding..I seriously don’t understand the big deal. If you have a family member or friend getting married on any day of the week..and you know about it 1 year or 2 years in advnce, you ask for the day off from work or you get off early if needed. My wedding is at 7pm, so I would hope most of my relatives down there will get off int ime to get ready and be at the church for us….I hope I hope. Also, I didn’t know that alot of people in mexico work on saturday mornings…but everyone is saying most people will just take the day off or go in late if they need to. ughghgh!
But yeah, you can’t worry about those who wont make it. I even have a plan if all my bm’s and groomsman flake out, on how to replace them…and I plan to buy their dresses from them too if I have to. Oh..this shoudl be interesting. I’m afraid my stress level will be through the roof, I just want to enjoy this time.
Post # 5
@fresitachulita: I feel ya on the stress! I’m to the point where I just want to be done with the wedding and get back to life as usual with my hubs:) I also see that you’re from/in Seatte? FI and I are going to hang out in Seattle for a couple days before boarding our cruise! Any advice on where to eat, things to do and see while we’re there?
Post # 6
@GeorgiaTeacup: Oh wonderful…well, it might be cliche’ but I love the spaceneedle and it’s a great experience if you’ve never been but kinda pricey…but be sure to make reservations. The crab pot on pier 57 is delicious..if you want some seattle seafood in a casual setting. I actually live just south of Seattle, so I don’t get to enjoy it as much as I’d like but I really like just walking around by pike place market, they have tons of little stores and stuff all around that are fun to look around in. I think there are even some dinner cruises on the sound, Ive always wanted to do that. Have fun, it’s a beutiful city and there is so much to do and people are really nice.