(Closed) upcoming wedding…getting freaked out.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aw hang in there!  I never knew wedding planning was so stressful either.  In the end, the people who care about you the most will find a way to be there. You shouldn’t worry about the folks who don’t show up. Some people consider weddings to be a free-for-all party, but it’s so much sweeter and intimate to have your closest friends and family there with you. 

If it makes you feel any better, I’m in similar shoes as you. Our wedding is on a Sunday 20th, and we set the date a year in advance thinking it wouldnt be an issue for family with such advance notice. Both FI and I told his mom the date multiple times. Come to find out two months before the wedding, his mom had been telling the family the date was Saturday the 19th. He only has a handful of family in the states, and the ones that are here are all doctors who have to put in. vacation time half a year in advance. His grandfather recently passed, so they already had to pull strings to attend his funeral. Now his relatives are saying they’re not attending, and his parents are skipping out onthe reception so that his dad can catch a flight early enough to get home and be well-rested for work. All the while, his family is blaming us for having a Sunday wedding.  WTF! (1) we’re paying for it and Sunday was easier on our budget, (2) we flippin told her a year in advance so its her fault for not following up and assuming, and (3) why does she have to skip out early just because her husband has to?  At the very least, she owes it to FI to stay since it was her mistake.  FI is so bummed that his family isnt even making a strong effort to attend. 

I swear these issues only happen to foreigners!  Everything will work out in the end though. I told FI the same thing I told you – not to worry about the folks who don’t make the effort to be there. And hope everything works out with your mom!

 

Post # 5
Member
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@fresitachulita:  I feel ya on the stress!  I’m to the point where I just want to be done with the wedding and get back to life as usual with my hubs:)  I also see that you’re from/in Seatte?  FI and I are going to hang out in Seattle for a couple days before boarding our cruise!  Any advice on where to eat, things to do and see while we’re there?

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