- 3 years ago
As of today, December 24, my wedding is exactly five months away! -squeals and dances around- I can’t figure out why people are acting like psychos though!
I know most all of you have encountered this. People inviting themselves, getting offended with the guest-list (especially FMIL), people thinking we’re too young (on the wedding day, he’ll be three days away from 24 and I’ll be 22), people think we’re living in sin and should have never moved in together before we were married, etc.
I have luckily been able to stand my ground with people inviting themselves. My big shiny way out of this has been to throw a MASSIVE cookout the weekend we come back from the honeymoon (likely June 1). That way, no one is excluded and everyone can celebrate our wedding and marriage…and I can prance around in my tiara again! 😛
The FI has been a miracle in holding his own ground against his mother. He wants a teeny guest-list like I do and won’t invite anyone we aren’t 100% CLOSE to. His family is large, but isn’t close anymore (which is really sad and I wish we were having a massive wedding because that would mean they were all still close!). My family…well, I don’t really have one anymore since my mother passed away earlier this year.
Needless to say, that has made things terribly hard to cope with. Especially when her side of the family decided to turn their backs on me. They won’t even celebrate Christmas with my FI and I. =/
He and I did not move in together on our own until my mom passed away…I didn’t have anywhere else to go and we were already engaged at the time. It isn’t the ideal circumstances to begin living together…but I wouldn’t change it for the world. We share cooking, cleaning, pet-taking-care-of, cat-poop-scooping, etc. Everything is damn near perfect in that sense.
So why in the world do people even care. Grr. We are Christians, majorly so in fact. But people think we are just downright evil for living together. -.- Especially since we’re “so young” and we “may not work out.” Blah.
It really has been very emotionally draining in some aspects, and I feel this has been made 100x harder because my mother isn’t there. She hasn’t seen me do anything except graduate from college…our future kids won’t have a “Granny” and she won’t…be there for anything else in my life.
It makes it so hard sometimes. It really does. Especially when she was the one who CHOSE to end her life. =/ It makes me feel very…worthless at times.
But either way. Wedding planning is almost complete as I have been buying things here and there slowly for months. We have all of my attire (first alteration appointment is in March), most of the decorations, and the venue. 🙂 We also have a caterer and such as well. Only thing really left is tablecloths/chair covers and random other small things. Needless to say, our guest bedroom is Christmas present and wedding day stuffed. LOL.
I know it’s good to be excited. But I suppose I am just down in the dumps today because Christmas is tomorrow and she won’t be there for that. =/
It also doesn’t help that my FMIL hurt my feelings with the guest-list either. -.- She wants to invite more of “her” family since mine isn’t coming. -.- Which I didn’t feel was appropriate. But ah well. I got over that.
I’m not sure what I even hoped to accomplish with this post. Just hope someone can find some peace with themselves if they are going through anything near the same thing. Much love, and Merry Christmas to everyone. 🙂