- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2007
This makes doctor #3, and this one finally listened!!
I have posted before about my issues : severely heavy, painful periods, pain during sexual intercourse, among a myriad of other things. Both doctor # 1 and doctor #2 brushed me off, saying these things were ‘normal’ or possibly just vaginismus. I had many more symptoms, including brown-black discharge that was constant and affected my daily life, lower back pain, pain during urination and bowel movements while on my period, etc.
Well, in an act of desperation, I called a third doctor (that I know, because he is one of the doctors affiliated with the medical center I work at) and they got me an appointment within a week (note: it usually takes months to be seen, especially as a first time patient- but they got me in very quickly!!)
I had written down my list of symptoms on the sheets they ask all new patients to fill out. I think I wrote down about 4 symtoms (there was no more room, though that was not the only issues I have had and have).
They sent me into a ‘consultation room’, since this doctor likes to consult with each new patient before actually doing any kind of exam. I was sitting there, thinking to myself, “If he doesn’t listen, or dismisses me, I’m out of options! Unless I go to a specialist, which is absolutely ridiculous to have to do.”
My fears were incredibly short-lived, because the first thing he said to me (besides, “Oh, hey, ThisLove, I didn’t realize it was you I’d be seeing today!” was “Your symptoms are exactly textbook endometriosis.” I teared up instantly. I barely choked out, “Both doctors I’ve been to prior to this have said these things were normal” and he looked shocked and said, “Absolutely not. None of these things are normal. It’s crazy that anyone could say that, considering what you’ve written!”
He then did a pelvic exam (more invasive than the one they do at regular exams) and let me tell you, he definitely found the painful areas. When he got done, he said, “I see what you’re talking about when you say it’s painful to have sex. I don’t even see how you have sex with your husband.” I was so GLAD that he understood and listened to me. I think I teared up about 293784 times during the visit.
He then gave me 3 options:
1. A pill (which he said was not as effective at treating endometriosis and didn’t recommend for me)
and two others, that he said were both highly effective
2. A laparoscopy, which would determine immedietely what stage I was at, so we could begin treatment quickly.
3. the Lupron shot, which he said would send me into a ‘menopausal’ state, but said it was highly effective at treating endometriosis (he said it had side effects of mood swings, and hot flashes, etc.) but after dealing with all this pain, I’ll gladly take a few side effects.
He told me I could choose whatever I was comfortable with, and get back to him. He also said DH could come along next time and discuss any questions he had, or just be there to listen.
Ladies, after dealing with this pain and misery for 7-8 years now, I cannot even explain how RELIEVED I am that someone FINALLY listened to me, and practically confirmed what I had already thought was the issue (I recently found out my mom had endometriosis- a fact she didn’t mention to me until I flat out asked, since I know it is very hereditary).
I cannot believe that after multiple visits to two different doctors, and both not even attempting to figure out the source of my pain and issues (and just saying they were normal), I finally found an OBGYN that took me seriously from the very start, and basically ‘diagnosed’ me in one visit.
I have never been so happy to know that there IS a problem, because it means my pain is warranted, and makes me feel like I’m not crazy, as the other two OBGYNs made me feel.
Thanks for reading this heckofalong story, ladies! One question: any of you with endometriosis; did you try the laparoscopy first or the lupron shot? I know I want to try one of these two, (not option 1) but I’m unsure which would be better to try. The doctor left it totally up to me, and said I could gladly discuss it with DH before deciding, but I’m unsure which option is better to start with.