(Closed) UPDATE… and a thank you to the Bee for your help.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Good Luck, sounds like you are doing the right thing for yourself! Good for you!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am so proud of you. I’m sure telling your parents was difficult, but you definitely did the right thing. I think some time apart from your FI will be good for you both. It’ll give you a chance to figure out what you want to do about your relationship (and wedding), and also make it a little clearer to your FI just how much his behavior has affected you.

Just like your dad said, remember that you should never tolerate that sort of behavior. If your FI is that sort of man who won’t change, then you’re better off without him, because you deserve to be respected and loved. If he’s just the sort of guy who went a little too far one time, hopefully he’ll realize that and it’ll make him more aware of his actions, especially with the woman he wants to marry– honor, protect, cherish and love.

All the best wishes.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It sounds like you made the right decision and that your dad confirmed what you already knew to be the case.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

YAY!  What a brave step you took!  I’m very proud of you and love your dad for what he said to you.  Because all of it is true.

Keep us posted.  Good luck and have a safe trip home.

Post # 7
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1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Thank you so much for the update – I was worried about you last night (because you were so upset) and I’m really happy to hear that you got to talk to your family and they seem to have the best answer.  Aren’t Dads the greatest?

I hope the space and time will give you a chance to make the best decision for you.  *bee hugs!*

Post # 8
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

*hugs* I’m proud of you for being honest with us and most of all yourself. I truly believe you’re doing the right things for the right reasons. And remember, as bad as it seems right now, pushing forward and going through with this would have been a far worse decision.

Let us know how you’re doing okay?

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Thank you for your updates! Please keep them coming so we can keep supporting you.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Thank you for the update. I think you did the right thing and gotta love the dads! Let us know how everything goes and I hope everything turns out ok.

Post # 11
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Thank you for the update.  I’m really happy for you that you are able to find the strength for this – you need to look out for yourself first always and it sounds like you’re doing the right thing.  Good luck, and please keep us updated!

Post # 12
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I have no idea why this posted 3 times…

Post # 12
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

this was the third…

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I missed the initial post, but just read it and your update.  Thanks for letting us know what happened. You sound like you have an amazing, supportive family.

Take some time to think about what you want and above all, be kind to yourself. Hugs to you- hope you are well. 🙂

Post # 14
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Thanks for letting us know. You have been in my thoughts since yesterday. It sounds like you have a lot of good family support, and I’m so glad that you are able to get away and think things through in a place where you feel safe. ((hugs))

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It sounds like you have a great family and you are being very brave. I wish you the best and hope this is a wake-up call for your FI that he has anger management issues. I hope he loves you enough to do everything he can to change so he can be with you, if you can find a way to trust him.

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