(Closed) UPDATE: attend reception only?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Tell your husband you are going with or without him.  Seriously.  If he wants to be a mama’s boy and is afriad of not following his mom around that’s fine.  But it doesn’t mean you have to do it too. 

I really did support your previous decision.  Usually I think it’s crappy to skip the ceremony but the bride and groom made it impossible for you to make it to both so that’s not your fault.  But to skip it now would be really rude. 

And another thing… if your MIL has such a problem with these people that she is unwilling to attend their wedding ceremony, then she should have the tact to decline and invitation to the reception as well.  

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i agree with moosey.  be the bigger person.  your hubby may even admire you and follow suit.  if not, you did the right thing.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think now that its in the same spot you definitely should go to the ceremony. I think not going to the ceremony and then showing up the reception for a free dinner is awful. If there is family drama then MIL should decline the invitation period. I don’t think you need to follow what they are doing because it will make you look bad.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

let his parents do whatever they want. you and dh should go to the ceremony and reception.

if his parents have such a problem with the couple, why are they attending at all?

Post # 7
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Helper bee

His parents are going to look bad regardless of whether or not you go, so the real question for your husband should be, do you want to look bad along with them?  If they are going to be petty and come down on you for that, that’s their problem, imho 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

If they love this couple so much then they should be willing to put aside differences with other people in order to do the right thing.  And if it were me, I would tell them so to their face.  But I’m kind of agressive like that.  And I have a good relationship with my in-laws so they could handle it. 

I really don’t think it would be that weird for you to without your husband.  To me it would be worth it for the principal of it.  And honestly, I think if you tell your husband that you are going with or with out him, then he will realize he’s being a fool and he will go with you.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

So is he trying to say that you always have to mimic whatever his parents do? I’m sorry but I think thats a little childish, you two are a grown couple and totally separate from his parents. You should go to both ceremony and reception and let his parents do whatever they want

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I would go to both, just because I would be sad if someone chose not to go to my ceremony.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with moosey as well. You should just go and tell your DH you will go with or without him. The only one looking bad (if not awful) in this siutaiton are your inlaws.All the family drama will be at the reception as well! Why attend the reception and not the ceremony? thats rocking the boat. Since you have the opportunity now to go to both I would. It may rock the boat with them a bit or maybe they will just cave in and go to the ceremony as well??

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Can I thread jack for a moment and note that I love that you girls are calling me Moosey : )  Thread jack over.

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