Post # 1
I am really annoyed. Yesterday I wrote about my so called “friend” and how she thinks the whole next year is her year just because she is getting married.
Here is the original post:
Well last night I got an update from BFF and it turns out I had my facts all wrong. The trip to NY after my wedding is NOT the bachelorette party. It’s just a pre-wedding girls trip.
The bachelorette weekend is actually happening 3 months before her wedding… get this: in Jamaica, at the SAME RESORT that I am getting married next spring!
She knew exactly where I was getting married MONTHS before she even got engaged! Why would she choose this place, of all places, for her BP? She’s never even been to Jamaica! The place we chose for our wedding is special to my FI and I… we had very specific reasons for choosing this place.
What upsets me is that she told me she might not be able to come to my wedding because she was so overwhelmed with wedding planning. Which is FINE. But the only girlfriends that I invited to my wedding all happen to be BMs in this girls wedding.
It doesn’t make any sense… How are my friends supposed to afford two trips to the same place within one year? Especially since they’re all BMs in her wedding, what choice do they have now?
I’m so annoyed. I can’t say anything, because obviously it’s not my place and it’s her wedding and she can do whatever she wants. But still – I had to get it out… I just feel like she is such a spiteful person… like no one else gets to be the bride because SHE is getting married.
I already sent her a STD. Can I just not invite her at this point? I am DONE with this b*tch.
Thanks for letting me vent. I had to get that all out before I explode!
Post # 3
@MissMaya: I would still send her an invite knowing she will decline and afterwards let the friendship cool off.
I read your last post. As long as your BFF will go to your wedding then great!
As for the NY trip, you can bow out by saying “Funds are low becasue we are starting a new life” and then use the same reasoning for the bach party.
Make yourself unavailable and let the friendship die an unnoticed death. If the bride is as bitchy as you say, she won’t notice.
Post # 4
@MissMaya: I too read your last post and it appears she is trying to “one up” you in every aspect of wedding planning AND she is trying to get under your skin with the fuckry and unfortunately she is succeeding. All I have to go off of is what you’ve posted about her and from what I read, she doesnt really seem to know what being a friend is. Well at least a friend to you so maybe its time for the friendship to end like LuvMySailor suggested.
People are in your life one day and gone the next. Dont stress about shit you cannot change and her/her wedding plans fall into the category. If your BFF is standing by your side and that’s what’s most important to you then screw the rest.
As for the other girls… you have been shown with whom their loyalty lies so maybe lopping off those friends too or at the very least distancing yourself isnt such a bad idea
Post # 5
She sounds like a total cow 🙁
Post # 7
@MissMaya: major bitch.
Call me crazy, but I feel like she picked the place in Jamaica on purpose to judge you on where you are having your wedding which is beyond bitch.
Invite her, she will decline, and so will her minions. I pity the man marrying her.
Enjoy your HAPPY and AWESOME life without her
Post # 8
She sounds just like my ex-BFF/MOH.. everything was always “me me me”. When it was her birthday she wanted the entire month to celebrate. Especially when she was planning her wedding 5 months before mine everything was about her, eventhough I was also planning my wedding & when my wedding rolled around she could care less.
Needless to say we are no longer friends and I am so happy I no longer have to put up with her 🙂
Post # 10
@MissMaya: This is so unbelievable. Sorry you have to deal with this. I totally agree with pp, tell her that you can’t pay for crazy travels like that…
Post # 11
What a Crazy Daisy!
I’d invite her, assume (and pray) she won’t show, and hope that your girls have the good sense to attend a WEDDING instead of a wildly overpriced bachelorette party!
Post # 12
Thanks ladies, I thought I was going crazy! I really feel like she’s doing this stuff on purpose. I truly, honestly believe that she was jealous that I got engaged before her because she has been “waiting” for her ring for what seems like a lifetime.
BFF just called me and said she confronted the bride and told her what she was doing was really shitty. Bride insisted that her plan was to have her BP at this resort from the very beginning, and that she didn’t see why this was such a big deal. BFF called her out on this because we booked our wedding two months before this girl was even engaged. BFF also told her that she has no interest in being her BM anymore and has since dropped out of her wedding.
I just don’t understand some people… I really don’t. But I feel SO lucky to have such an awesome BFF to stand up for me and stay by my side. As for the other girls, I guess I’ll just have to wait and see what they decide.
Truthfully, everyone has done me a favor by showing me their true colors. At least moving forward in life I’ll know who to include and who not to include in any future major life events.
@MsBeer: she is a total fucking cow.
Post # 13
@MissMaya: Your BFF sounds AWESOME!!!!
Seriously, you are, if anything, underreacting. However, there’s not much you can do (so major kudos for your BFF calling her out on her shit).
Itr sounds like the best bet is to see what these other ladies do and take your cues from their actions. If they aren’t able to bow out of some of this girl’s pre-wedding schenanigans to ATTEND YOUR WEDDING then you have a really good idea of how important you are to them.
Post # 14
@MissMaya: Props to your BFF for calling her out on her bullshit. Good luck with your plans xxx
Post # 15
@MissMaya: It doesn’t make any sense… How are my friends supposed to afford two trips to the same place within one year? Especially since they’re all BMs in her wedding, what choice do they have now?
that’s not really your problem. i’m sure they would choose your wedding over her trip if they can’t afford both.
eta: and it looks like your bff already did. good.
Post # 16
what the heck?! what kind of friend says they can’t make it to yor wedding because they are too busy planning their own???