- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
I wrote a post almost 2 months ago talking about how my “friend” and her mom told me I was a horrible maid of honor and was nothing but negative, all because I asked if bark would get stuck to our sequined skirts and said that we need dates set in stone for wedding/ bridal party festivites so some BMs could request off. I also talked about how my “friend” is only concerned about herself and her wedding, instead of also caring about her friends and what they have going on in their lives.
I’m 22, an only child and an orphan. My grandfather is the only family I have and he is obviously my world. Before I left to study abroad this summer he was in the hospital and she never asked about him until after he was out. This was also during my birthday that she forgot about. That really really hurt me. Since I have been home from studying abroad (almost 2 months) I have been taking my grandfather back and forth to his doctors appointments (I live over an hour away), and I was also trying to find an assisted living facility for him to live in that was closer to me. I told her I was going through a lot literally the day before her and her mom blew up on me. Since then, he has been in the hospital for 2 weeks, has now been in rehab for 2 weeks, has been diagnosed with cancer and I am still trying to find him a home to live in. Plus I start back to school in a little over a week. My boyfriend’s grandpa is also dealing with cancer so we just have a lot on our plate, dealing with real life shit as opposed to her fairy tale world.
I haven’t talked to her since she went off. Honestly, it was really wearing on me but I just didn’t know what to say to her. I had so much I wanted to say but if I told her everything I wanted to she really would think I was “negative.” And I didn’t know how to say it without being a complete bitch and making matters worse. Plus I thought it was kinda on her since her and her mother had the last word and it’s her wedding and her Maid/Matron of Honor, not mine, so I just didn’t say anything. Then my grandfather went into the hospital and I didn’t have time to worry about it.
A couple of weeks ago the house they (as in her mom and somewhat her fiance) bought/built was finished and since then they have been blowing up instagram and facebook. I understand it is a happy time but they are coming across as ridiculous and braggy. Everything they do just seems to get on my nerves because I know they are so fake and want to be appear perfect to the outside world. I don’t want to be her friend because I realize our friendship has ran its course but I don’t know what to do.
I wasn’t sure if I was still in the wedding or what. Today I saw on instagram where one of the bridesmaids said she can’t wait for this weekend, which I am assuming is her bridal shower. I obviously wasn’t invited so I have my answer about being in the wedding. But it gets awkward… My boyfriend (will be fiance by the time of the wedding) is still a groomsmen. In April her fiance and my SO were in a wedding and me and her were not invited to the rehearsal dinner. She pitched a fit and made her fiance leave with her instead of staying for the dinner. They both said that it was rude not to invite the SOs and that they would do everything they could to have the SOs there for their wedding…So will she invite me to the rehearsal dinner? My boyfriend does not want to go without me and he doesn’t care that much about being in the wedding because 1. he’s not big on weddings and 2. he doesn’t want to waste all his paid off time. I just feel awkward because I’m going to be at the wedding if my boyfriend is there but I just don’t know how to feel about it. It’s such a weird position to be in. I also don’t want to deal with her mom because I know she is going to have something to say.
I had planned on fading away from her after the wedding anyways but we obviously didn’t make it that far. I just don’t know what my response should be or how to act in this situation. What would you do?