Post # 1
So now my brother is for sure pulling out because he says he can’t get it off. Not only that, his Fiance isn’t coming either. I’m not sure about that one… she isn’t in the military or anything. She works full time during the week and has weekends off, and it’s not like she doesn’t know my family…
His drill is done in the afternoon when the reception starts. The reception goes until 1am.. they are both not going to that either. I think they just hate me or something…
Post # 3
that’s shady. my brother may pull out last minute as well. since my mom isn’t coming (long story, didn’t feel like sharing here) and has pretty much written me off (took me out of the will, etc.), and he works for her…she probably will not give him tme off to come to my wedding. since he relies on her for paychecks and she can make his life hell, he probably won’t be able to come. not because he doesn’t want to, but because she will force him to stay. she’s a total control freak//bitch! ughhhh…..
don’t worry though…there will be plenty of people around you that love you and support you. if your brother chooses not to be there that is his CHOICE and should tell you something! if i were you though, i would ask questions and see if he has an issue he would like to discuss with you.
Post # 4
@ijustrockout: Sorry to hear that. My mom doesn’t do that sort of stuff, thankfully. She’s confused like I am.
I would discuss it with him, but he may just not reply. He doesn’t really talk on the phone and all he does is communicate via Facebook when he feels like it. I just wish I knew what I did wrong, I guess. What would be the reason for this?
Post # 5
@Ahone: I’m going to cross my fingers and hope your brother has a change of heart and will make what amount of reception that he can. How far does he have to travel for the reception? Do you guys get along? Do you get along with his FI? It’s just all so weird. 🙁
As a side note, if your brother’s drill gets out on time when they say it will, will you PLEASE have his leadership call my husbands???? (Kidding ofcourse). I once had to wait 3 hours in the parking lot waiting on DH to finish drill because they went over. There has yet to be a day where they have gotten off on time…Ugggg….lol
Post # 6
@JsDragonfly: He would have to drive 30 minutes, approximately 20 miles. We were close growing up, and then his personality changed and he became really reclusive to everyone. I have met his fiance like 3 times in 2 years because of this. He has brought her around my parents a lot more, though. I invited him over to my new house when I first moved in and he never showed up even though he said he would. That was last year.. but I would think he would try for the reception. Guess not…
LOL. I’ve never had to wait to pick him up from drill, sooo.. I have never experienced that, sorry! I would go nuts, though. Really. That’s stupid to wait that long.
Post # 7
@Ahone: I am so sorry… I suggest emailing him and asking him if you did anything wrong; just let him know that you love him and would love to see him and his FI at your wedding. Also, let him know you understand it he can’t make it, but if he could please please please ask his commanding officer if there was any way that he could get off for your wedding that would be appreciated.
Ask him if there is any way he can ask his commanding officer if he can switch the weekend. I have an ex that was in the military and my son was in the military too, and sometimes things can be worked to where they can make up the date somewhere else; not always though, but it is worth a shot.
Also, if him and his FI are having financial difficulties, he may not want to miss drill because they need the money.
And about his FI, if you and him were extremely close before she came into the picture, she may be a bit jealous of you; just a thought though.
I hope everything works out for you 🙂
Post # 8
@Ahone: I really hope he has a change of heart and makes it to your wedding. With it being so close for travel, it’s just ridiculous that he wouldn’t 🙁
I’ve gotten used to the waiting. The Army has a saying, “Hurry up and wait.” And boy oh boy have I experienced that in the last few years. lol