- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
For those of you who are interested to know how FBIL’s Christmas proposal at my place went, here goes (this will be long I’m sure).
She said yes! But of course it isn’t that simple.
FIL’s were supposed to arrive an hour before FBIL and his GF but ended up being 45 minutes late (meaning that some of the food which needed to be heated for her family was also 45 minutes late). I ask FMIL if she has the champagne FBIL wanted and she says no, she told him to just get it. FBIL shows up with his GF as I am in the kitchen frantically trying to make brisket heat faster than is physically possible. He comes in and hands me a mini bottle of champagne (enough for two people) and asks me to put it in the freezer because it is still warm. I figure someone will tell me when the proposal is about to happen so I can go into the living room but nobody does so I only know he did it because of the noise coming from the living room and the doorbell ringing when her family arrived.
My mom and sister help me get everything done and set up so people can eat. I pop out to congratulate them and FBIL asks where the champagne is. I figured maybe someone would introduce me to FSIL’s family at this point but nobody does so I just go over and do it myself, which is slightly awkward but whatever. I go back to the kitchen and grab the champagne, which is only kind of cold, and two little plastic cups (which is what I was using for drinks since I don’t have enough wine glasses for all those people). FBIL is like “I thought you had real glasses” and I just sort of shrugged and say we aren’t using the stemware tonight. They split the bottle themselves. I don’t care because I don’t even like champagne all that much, but there were some side-eyes going on from various people.
Dinner goes nicely (everything tasted pretty good and I managed not to burn anything) but when my family starts to do the toasts to my grandmother the other table of people starts talking halfway through. I can tell my family is getting pissed but there’s nothing I can really do about it at that point. We just go about our own family business and finish up the memorial part ignoring the rudeness and once it is over I start clearing the table with my mom and sister to get ready for coffee and dessert. My sister goes out to collect plates from the other table and comes back in the kitchen and tells me that they announced their wedding date for Hawaii in April on my FI’s birthday to everyone in the room. We had decided not to say anything about our honeymoon (which was supposed to be in April) but we thought that they would wait a bit to decide a date, but no.
FI has managed to hold it together and not flip on FBIL and I go find him out on the balcony smoking a cigarette with FMIL. They are both angry. I take a drag (even though I don’t smoke anymore but whatever I just needed one, OK?) and go back in to play the happy hostess, smiling and nodding, waiting for everyone to get the f**k out of my place because I am tired and full and I just want to put on my PJs and drink wine on my couch in peace.
Everyone leaves eventually. My mom and sister think the whole thing is so ridiculous that it is just a joke to them at this point. FI and FMIL continue to be mad at FBIL in a passive aggressive way, and I am not getting involved. We will probably move our honeymoon to a year anniversary after our wedding since this whole April thing seems to be happening for sure, but that is the last concession I am going to make for FBIL.
On a happier note, I have always really liked my FSIL (even though her family rubbed me the wrong way a bit) and she said that if they have a wedding party she would like me to be a BM. I said of course I would accept but part of me kind of wishes they won’t have a big huge wedding party because I have enough on my plate with my wedding and work and I don’t know if I have time for a bunch of BM activities with her since I’m already a BM in my friend’s wedding coming up as well.
Sorry that was so long but there was a lot going on.