*UPDATE* – gutted….ring still not ready 6 months on

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

oh my god I would be PISSED!!! Obvioulsy, you know how I had a break down the other day so I can’t imagine lol

Post # 3
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I’m you are going with a new jeweler entirely. Thanks for the update. Can’t wait to see your new ring! 

Post # 4
2062 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

This is good news. At last you know the truth and you will get a lovely ring.

On a practical level you must send something in writing to say that you want your money back immediately.  Put something in a letter and in an email.  Send the email by recorded delivery.

This will provide a vital “paper trail” just in case you need a lawyer to chase the money.  


Post # 7
2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow, I hope you get the money back without having to drag the liar to court!

Also, what’s the new ring look like? 🙂

Post # 8
4910 posts
Honey bee

Sparkles30:  I am so happy to read that you are going through a new jeweler and that you have found a beautiful, new ring that you love. I hope it is ready super quickly, as you’ve already been through so much! I hate, though, that you were lied to in such a terrible and cruel manner. But at least you know the truth now, and can stop worrying over that part of it. I hope you get your money back easily!

I can’t wait to see pics of your new, gorgeous ring!!

Post # 10
558 posts
Busy bee

I am very happy for you! Hope all works out with this woman…

Post # 11
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

Sparkles30:  Oh man what an update! So sorry you are going through this. I really hope you get your money back, and if you don’t…shady jeweler meet small claims court, small claims court meet shady jeweler. Cant wait to see pics of the new ring!

Post # 12
2062 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

The woman isn’t wedded to the truth and people do strange things when cornered.  She could accuse you of anything so don’t give her the chance.  Also, some people don’t respond to threats the way you think they might.  I once threatened a salesman that I was going to report him to his superiors when something I ordered didn’t arrive and he’d made lots of excuses.  As I was talking to him and listening to his answers I suddenly realised that he wasn’t quite sane.  In fact I would go so far as to use the word ‘unhinged’. It was a ‘hairs standing up on the back of my neck’ moment.  I backed down, even though I was right, and made a mental note never to use that particular shop again.

Please, please don’t name and shame at this stage.  She might accuse you of defamation of character and then everything will get really messy legally.  

My advice would be just to send a plain letter and email making clear that as the ring has still not appeared six months after the agreed deadline you want your deposit back immediately.  If the deposit does not get returned within seven days then you will be consulting your lawyer.  This is enough to show that you are very reasonable people who have given her a reasonable amount of time to return the deposit.  Don’t be tempted to say any more.  Keep the tone neutral.  Dont mention the setter.  

I would be surprised if she did give you the money without a bit of a fight so keep records of all the emails, texts and phone calls. 

Post # 13
85 posts
Worker bee

That is horrible!! I’m so sorry… I really hope everything works out.

Post # 14
5188 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Sparkles30:  I fully agree with Supersleuth:, this person knew that what she was doing could affect her business and still did it, even worse, did it to a friend.  I wouldn’t take more chances and have a written record of your demands to use if this ends up before a judge.  A short letter or email will suffice.

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