Post # 1
So, a stone has been ordered… I don’t know exactly WHICH one but I do know one was. I had shown several I liked across three sites over the past few weeks… so this is going to be a mystery for me. A lot of them have been sold since I sent them (yes, I tried to audit that for clues).
One thing neither of us looked into as well as we should have is the mechanics of setting the stone. Apparently, he has found the stone and knows the setting… but since neither are from the same place, he is having trouble actually purchasing the setting (either Blue Nile or Brilliant Earth). It seems as though he has bought the stone. He called me last night a little worried because he had spent all day on the phone with various places (he did not say which) seeing if there was a way to get just the setting.
My job revolves around “making the difficult happen” – so naturally, I am looking for solutions. So far, I’ve landed at two, but am not sure if you gals who are experts see any problems or know of anything better I can point him towards.
- Order the setting with a cheapo stone in the center (low-grade moissy or sapphire – I can find some 5mm ones for ~$400). Have the center stone switched out, possibly with the head replaced. Would need to find a jeweler to do that. Would also need to make sure I have enough room in the setting for the appropriate sized stone since we were looking at ones a bit larger. I’m expecting that reselling the stone would cover or close to cover the cost of having the head replaced.
- Inquire as to whether either of the sites will create a custom design or find a custom jeweler who uses only socially-concious stones. I was already a little concerned about the color of the side stones in the “canned settings” since we were looking at D-G colored diamonds – it looks like most of the simple settings I like have diamonds which are not neccessarily “there” color-wise. I don’t know how long “custom” like this takes – or if there is someone would would.
I’m really trying to not compromise on the socially concious aspect of it. I know that standard Kimberley Process settings are more readily available still pretty socially concious – we both just feel like we should do it completely for my ring if we can.
Do you gals have any ideas/feedback/anything? TYIA!
Post # 2
Might get more help on this topic on a PriceScope forum?? Good luck though : )
Post # 3
Consultette: I would go to a local jeweler, show them the stone, and ask to see their selection of settings. Chances are they work with setting wholesalers who only sell to jewelers – Stuller, for example, among others – amd you’ll have a huge selection. You can even mix and match shanks and baskets, so you’ll be sure to find something that fits your stone.
Post # 4
I’d much rather have the company I’m buying the setting from set the stone, as opposed to giving a third party jeweler the pieces asking them to put them together. You’ll be taking on a lot of risk if you go through option 1.
Profit issues aside, many jewelers won’t sell their settings separately because they cannot guarantee that either the stone will fit (a ring head should be made to fit that exact stone’s dimensions, not just its carat weight), or the quality of the third party jeweler’s work. Just imagine if Tacori started to sell just their settings, and another jeweler botched setting the stone. It would be their reputation on the line. Another issue may arise if the jeweler decides your diamond is too risky to set (ex: too many feathers in the stone), or if the setting is too delicate to have the head replaced. You could be out both a stone and a setting if something were to go wrong.
There are companies that will set your stone in one of their settings, but only if you send it to them for evaluation first (a lab report helps too). If a jeweler says they can do it without even looking at the stone first, that’s a red flag. Depending on the size of the sidestones, you should be okay with the color if it’s within 2 color grades. In either option you listed, please remember to properly insure your stone, and ask if it specifically covers damage during the setting process.
Best of luck!
Post # 5
Go to a reputable jeweler and either select from their what they have, or have them custom make it. I agree with plantobee: .
Post # 6
Thank you girls! He is driving me nuts… Probably deliberately! Hehe
He may not have the stone afterall and may have just had an idea what it is going to be which may not have “jived” with the setting. Last night it suddenly seemed like much less of an issue than the night before when he was freaking out a bit…
We aren’t going to Alaska for another 2 weeks and he is driving me nuts. He told me while drunk one night that he had a dream idea of how he wanted to propose and things were falling into place, so I’m still 99% sure about then… But a little concerned about the timing of the ring if it is. :-/
Post # 7
You can go to any jewler and have them set your stone in one of their settings.
My finace bought a moissanite and a setting from Jareds. Well…the stone was too big for the setting so we returned the setting.
Later, I found a setting I loved from adiamor.com….so I mailed them my stone and they set it!