- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Some of you may remember that I got a diamond ring that looks like an engagement ring from my SO and though he was proposing when he wasn’t. I came here sad, and upset and everyone was confused at his actions and sympathetic for me.
Anyway, I thought I would update on what happened to the ring. Suggestions on the boards were to not wear it, exchange it, etc… so, what did I do??
SO and I talked again and I mentioned some of the things you lovely bees suggested. He looked at me and basically ripped me a new one. He explained how much he loved me, what the ring meant to him (a token of how much he loves me), and how ungreatful it is to be upset that it wasn’t an e-ring. He went on to list all the things he does for our little family (us and the kids) and I really felt like a jerk. He also pointed out some things that I don’t care to share. Suffice it to say, I felt like a jerk.
This man who loves me spent money to buy me a beautiful ring. No, it wasn’t an engagment ring, but it IS a symbol of his love to me and, for now, it’s enough. I wear it everyday proudly and have gotten over the “that looks like an e-ring” comments. He also pays attention to the ring… if I don’t wear it, he notices it… if it needs cleaning he notices. It means A LOT to him that he did this for me.
And, no, I don’t think it’s his way of stalling and engagement or anything like that. For some reason, I am even MORE confident than I was before that I won’t be unengaged forever. So, alls well that ends well and sometimes things aren’t as bad as they seem.
I am blissfully happy and while diamonds may not be my bestfriend, they sure are pretty on my finger!