Update (I have not posted in a long time), I walked three months ago

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
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Sugar bee

Good for you looks like you did the right thing 🙂

Post # 3
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Busy bee

You are so strong! I wish you the best!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Somewhere outside in Northern Virginia

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Hugs. Sorry to hear about your ex. But…what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger! 

 

I hope you continue being happy. I also know how tough it is to break it off and then pull up your roots, as I went through a similar situation a few years ago with my ex. I am now with someone else, but in between the relationships, I lived on my own for the first time. So it was a bit scary at first, LOL. But…personal growth often comes when we step outside our comfort zones.

 

Just wanted to say good on you for stepping up for yourself, and moving on to bigger and better things. And I hope it just gets better from here!

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  QuietStorm.
  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  QuietStorm.
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

good for you!  I started over again at 39 (after a divorce) so I can totally relate to the feeling of being lighter.  It’s scary but terribly exciting all at the same time!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

KatertotATL:  Good on you for sticking to your guns and doing something to move toward your own personal happiness! All the best in the future!

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Good to hear you are moving on in a healthy way.

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Busy bee

I’m a new bee and I dont know your backstory (and I havent shared mine really) but I really needed to read this. 

I’m sorry it didnt  work out, but you sound like a strong person with a lot of amazing opportunities coming your way. 

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Busy bee

GOod for you Girl! Be true to the things you want and need in life 🙂

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Newbee

I’m really happy you posted this! Such an encouraging story. I’m so proud of you! 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

KatertotATL:  Thank you for sharing with us. I’m one of those people who gets stuck in the right now and fearing the furture, and I’m sure a lot of Bees really needed to read your story. Good luck and best wishes to you. Please come back to us again if you do find someone who is right for you, but until then, best wishes with the move to the new city and good job focusing on you and what was best for you!

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Buzzing bee

KatertotATL:  Girl, you dodged a bullet. 

I know there are a lot of anti-ultimatum Bees who would disagree with me on this. But I feel strongly that breaking it off, or just giving notice that you plan to break it off if a proposal doesn’t come by XYZ date — is an excellent way to free yourself from Waiting Hell, take control of your life again and — coincidentally — also find out how the guy would react at the prospect of losing you.

When someone really loves you, he won’t let you go. He will follow you to the ends of the earth. His love for you and his desire to have you by his side is more important to him than any anxiety or doubts he may have about tying the knot and making things legal.

If he lets you walk out of his life, he never loved you enough to begin with. It’s ALWAYS better to find these things out sooner than later. Congratulations on not wasting more months and years of your life waiting and hoping for a proposal that evidently was never in the cards.

I was watching Steve Harvey recently and he said something like, “You’ll never meet Mr. Right as long as you’re wasting time on Mr. Wrong.”

So true!

Like you, I ended a dead-end relationship in my 30s. I didn’t end up meeting my DH until I was in my 40s. I hope it happens for you sooner than it did for me. Keep a positive attitide, hold your head high, be proud of yourself and expect good things to happen! 

Way to go!!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

I love women who put themselves first.  Good luck to you in everything! 

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Busy bee

So nice of you to share. I wish you only happiness

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

KatertotATL:  

You are a strong woman who will do well in life. I wish more waiting Bees had that strength.

What is the point of moaning when SEVERAL deadlines pass?

Might as well just accept that the man doesn’t want to get married and move on. 

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