- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
Okay. I’m sorry to all that were worried and sorry for not updating. Upon reading most of the personal attacks on my “drinking and driving” and now theres seperate drama that I wont post here. I wasn’t sure I was going to respond or how to respond to everyone at once so I just deleted the thread.
1. The drinks I had were spaced out. Mine were roughly one oz liquor and at least 6 oz pop. His, however, I’m not sure about because I don’t mix his drinks. We each had two drinks total. I waited several hours before I had the second drink, then all of a sudden he wanted to go home RIGHT AFTER I consumed the dang thing. I was worried about the breathalizer (sp?) because I’ve never done one and I didn’t know if it would read differently since I had just finished an alcoholic beverage. We live less then 5 min drive time from the beach if we don’t hit all of the lights, I wasn’t worried about my driving ability. Seeing a cop at a light in those 5 min however is very possible, and when he reached over me to honk the horn I worried that if a cop saw that they would see it as a reason to pull us over.
2. He has had only two similar outbursts. They both involved him drinking after his ex withheld his son from him on his visitation day and another time she took off without warning. However on those occasions he never went after me or my dog, only a few objects in the room. Both times were in a 3 year time frame, so I’d say this happens about once a year.
3. I didn’t take his keys from him for a power trip, I took them before he got out of the shower because based on his behavior, he was in no shape to drive and I didn’t want him driving off out of anger and getting pulled over. This was before he pushed me on the couch, before anything even had a chance to get worse. I didn’t know what to expect once he got out, I only knew he couldn’t/shouldn’t drive. Sure enough, when he did get out of the shower, the first thing he did was start looking for his keys, and things escalated from there. He wasn’t sober enough to drive. Thats all I was focused on. What he did in the morning was up to him, but hopefully by morning he’d be sober.
4. I didn’t leave the room and sleep on the couch out of fear, I’ve never been worried about him hitting me. I went in the living room because I wasn’t sure what his next move would be after flipping the mattress over with me on it. (pretty strong hint he didn’t want me in the room).
I’m sorry if there is anything I failed to answer. Since all this has happened, he did apologize the following morning. He said he knew he was drunk, and that it wasn’t an excuse. We are trying to work things out. We aren’t heavy drinkers. I know my liimits on alcohol, I’m not sure if he knows his. Name calling is one of his pet peeves and something we don’t try and do, however when we argue obviously nobody is perfect and things happen, especially when alcohol is involved. The wedding isn’t happening any time soon, however we haven’t broken off the engagement. We just know now that its definitely going to be a long one because we have a lot of things to work on. I hope I didn’t miss any questions, If I did i”m sorry. And thank you for those who did offer good advice on the previous thread. I’m sorry I deleted it, but too many people were focused on the drinking and driving, it was getting a little crazy.