Post # 1
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I took the advice of many bees and said this:
“Hey, I wish you could have been there too! When you are back we can go in and I will put the sample on so you can see it in person!
NOW, what do you think of the dress? Half the store was crying including me and my mum.”
She replied with:
“Not commenting til I see it in person.
Also, since you already bought it, it only matters that you love it”3
This girl is in debate tournaments…she always has an opinion! I sent her 5 pics of me in the dress! My Fiance knows her well (we are all best friends) and even he thinks she is being a C U Next Tuesday.
What do I do now????
Post # 3
@missjewels: I wouldn’t do anything. The “all that matters is that you love it!” is what you need to remember.
When she sees you in the dress she’ll remember that she’s your best friend and that she WAS being a C U Next Tuesday!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I think she is sucking it up and being kind? Not knowing your friend well, it doesn’t sound like she’s being snarky as it is very true that since you bought it all that matters is that you love it, and that she won’t be able to make a very informed opinion without seeing it in person. I would just leave it at this!
Post # 5
Understand that the sentiment behind it is nice – she understands this is some of the most important times in your life and wishes to be there for you and is hurt that she couldn’t be. Instead of being upset at her, perhaps you should tell her that you will make sure she knows about your first fitting and goes with you, should she be around for it. Then explain to her that you didn’t want to wait for her to return and you had to coordinate with other people and that you can’t wait until she can see it in person and that you hope she will be there when you pick out all the accessories you need to pull the dress together.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
“It’s awesome. Can’t wait until you’re home!!!!”
Post # 7
I actually think her response was pretty nice, considering that she is probably still upset that you picked your dress without her.
Post # 8
I’d say “I do love it and I can’t wait for you to see it!” Then I’d let all of this go. Like she said, the most important thing is that you love it. And I don’t really see how her response to the second email (with photos) was snarky. Perhaps she doesn’t like it from photos. Maybe she wants to see the color/fabric/detail in person. Who knows, but she certainly wasn’t mean and was very supportive of you.
Post # 9
@MidwestBride2012: I don’t think it was mean, I wasn’t saying it was mean. It just isn’t enthusiastic her. She is really vocal and I take her silence and lack of opinion as out of character and I want to make peace with her but do not know how to reply.
Post # 10
Well, I was trying to avoid saying c*nt, which is what you essentially called her. I don’t think she was being either mean or the c-word.
Post # 11
well, we can’t tell from her words but you know her best so I know what you mean when you just get that vibe… there’s not much you can do, other than try to set up the time for her to see it in person, since she says she can’t comment til then.
Post # 12
This may totally not be the answer you’re looking for… but I’ve spent a lot of time trying to make my Maid/Matron of Honor feel better. And honestly, I have learned that its my wedding and I need to make sure that I’m the one happy!
Yea, it is unfortunate that you didn’t get to have her there and you did everything you could to make her feel better. But i think all you can say is “I can’t wait for you to see it!” and maybe make sure that she is included (and maybe just her) in the next event.
You had to do what is best for you and you really cant spend all your time trying to cheer her up…. otherwise it will stress you out more!
Post # 13
She probably doesn’t want to comment until she sees it in person, a dress looks very different in person then it does in a picture. I’m sure you noticed this in your search for the perfect dress.