Post # 1
I posted here and here about the ongoing passive aggressive battle between MaidOH and MatronOH. Well, it’s official – MatronOH is not coming to the bachelorette party.
I feel like I should feel bad about it or hurt but I don’t and I’m not. It probably will be easier this way. Maybe that’s horrible to say but it’s sure as hell true.
I’m not supposed to know she’s not coming yet. We are having dinner soon and I assume she’ll tell me then and I’ll have to act surprised and upset. Or do I even have to act upset? Because I’m really not, not because I don’t want her there but because it’s her life and if she doesn’t want to/can’t come then f**k it, right? Isn’t that the normal non-Bzilla response to this situation? I told my Fiance it didn’t bother me and he looked at me like I had three heads.
Post # 3
That is the way I am looking at my whole wedding. That it will be a great day for Fiance and me no matter what as long as we get married and all the normal wedding drama can kiss my a””. My family thinks I have lost it because I am normally the one with a lot of anxiety, but in regards to the wedding planing have just been as calm as can be.
When she tells you I would just tell her that you understand and that is a decision she has to make. I wouldn’t act upset, especially if you aren’t. I think as long as you are fine with it, it probably is best to avoid drama.
Post # 4
When she tells you, just say “okay, that’s fine”. I don’t think it’s necessary to make a big production…passive agressive people love those.
Post # 5
I agree with @misshelen – just act like it’s totally fine. She’s probably just trying to get a reaction out of you anyway.
Post # 6
Yep if you really are okay with it then say Okay, and if you change your mind you know where to find us.
My Matron of Honor told me she wasn’t coming to the showers because of this reason or that reason. I just told her okay just let me know if it changes. Well guess what, it did! She even gave me a ride to one of them LOL
So just play it cool, she may realize that this is about you and her and not about her and another bridesmaid.
Post # 7
I read your other posts. Lame-sauce of your MatronOH for acting like this. Don’t know what to say only that you make it clear to her if she brings it up that actually you wanted to get out of NYC for the bachelorette. Maybe when she hears it from your mouth and not your MaidOH’s mouth she’ll realize it’s really what YOU wanted all along and she’ll realize that this was supposed to be for YOU anyway.
Post # 8
LOL @ “lame-sauce”
I think I’m just gonna let it go. It’s her life and her money, she can do what she wants with it. Her and her hubby are in Napa right now (so says Facebook) and my MaidOH called me and was like OMG DID YOU SEE THE STATUS UPDATE THEY ARE IN FREAKIN NAPA?!?! and I was like dude, they can take a vacation. One has nothing to do with the other. Whether it was planned before or it wasn’t, it doesn’t matter. But yeah so now there’s THAT whole thing.
Can’t we all just get along?
Post # 9
I wouldn’t act surprised or upset. Just say, ok, you understand she has the right to make that choice. As you said, no matter what you and your Fiance will get married and it will be great.