Update: Meeting with former fiance after 2.5 months

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7217 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m so glad you were able to tell your former best friend how you feel. I can’t imagine how heart broken youve been. My heart goes out to you. 

 

Post # 4
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1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m sorry all that happened. I’m sure you’ll always have a little piece of you never forget that love, but it’s best to move on. Good for you. Your strength is really impressive.

 

 

Post # 5
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608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am confused…did he want to get back together?

Post # 8
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657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@butterfly1988:  I know most bees won’t agree with me but you need to do what feels right in your heart. I’ve been with FI for 10 years since we were 14/15 and about 4-5 years ago we both had moments of doubt. This is something most bees probably don’t understand because they’ve been with other people before being with their FI. Most of our memories are intertwined, we were eachother’s first for everything. Several years ago we actually “broke up” remained friends but were LDR at the time due to school, we told eachother that if we found someone else we liked we’d date them but we never found anyone else. This sort of seems to be what you FI wanted to do but a little too late. I’ve seen plenty of HS sweethearts break up after 5 years of marriage because they thought maybe they could do better.

I think it’s a positive thing that you’re at least speaking to him, even if you have zero intentions of ever getting back together with him, he was such a large part of your life and it’d be a shame to have all of that tainted by anger and bitterness. It will help to bring you closure and being on your own will make you a better person as well. I’m grateful for my 4 years of LDR because it helped us to make us individuals. You really seem to be doing what’s best for you right now and that’s all that really matters.

Post # 10
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608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@butterfly1988:  I see. I think it is so hard for you both because you dont know any different type thing…together always, no other partners by the sounds of it..moving on from a failed relationship IS hard as the feelings don’t just disappear…I think you are right in not jumping straight back in…give it more time…My opinion is that he just hasnt found anyone else yet and so he is still emotionally stuck on you…but NOT enough to admit he made a mistake and loves you desperately/cant live without you etc…everyone is different though and mine is just one opinion…good luck and sorry you are hurting!

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