UPDATE – MOH gone Crazy!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

At this point, I think your friend needs to talk to the bride.  Because if that’s the monetary expectation, she will have to step down, and I seriously doubt the bride wants her to do that.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsGinkgo:  Her response should be, “I had no say what sort of shower it would be, so I don’t need to pay. If YOU want an expensive shower then YOU pay for it”.

She should just say no. The MOH can’t force her.

And wait, what, is she expected to fly in for the shower too? No reasonable bride would expect her BMs to fly in for pre-wedding events. (EDIT: OK, I see she doesn’t need to do that at least).

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@loving_life:  this. Complaining about it to others isnt helping her situation. She needs to speak to the bride NOW.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I don’t think I could keep a straight face if someone told me it was “too bad” that I had decided not to voluntarily spend hundreds of dollars to be in some wedding.

Needless to say, I’d be forgoing the honor and responsibilities of being a bridesmaid at this point. Good grief.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

She needs to talk to the bride.

What the heck

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MsGinkgo:  She isn’t even attending the shower??? She needs to tell the MOH again, firmly, NO.  What’s the MOH gonna do, kick her out of the wedding herself? And if the MOH doesn’t shut up, like I said, your friend really needs to talk to the bride.  I’m assuming since the bride picked her as a BM, she wouldn’t want her to have to step down over something like this. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

The MOH is insane .  She should have communicated with every single BM asking what they were comfortable paying for shower .  It’s not like we’re talking  about 100$ bucks or something.  I think your friend should politely tell the bride that these costs are exceeding anything she expected or has paid before so she will need to stand down.  If she is truly a friend the bride will understand 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

this chick is LOCA!! 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

She needs to call the bride ASAP!! That MOH is rude and I don’t think the bride would appreciate her behavior.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MsGinkgo:  did she ever talk to the bride.

it is fully within her right to do that.

 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tha’s so unacceptable. So as a BM its your responsilbity to pony up oodles of cash if the MOH decides to throw and over the top party? Thank you Lord, I’m of an age where I don’t anticpate being asked to be in a bridal party. Cause I’d GO.THE.FUCK.OFF on that ass. 

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