- 7 years ago
i know lots of you were keenly following my crazy story, so here is the end as i promised! I had replied (with some of your help and against some others advice) to a 3 page letter sent to me by my friend who had refused to let me take my cat home after cat-sitting for several months. You can see my recent threads started for the full story.
Well, my friend responded to my email tonight. She did not do what many predicted in that she did not counter everything i said to her, so that is good i guess. Of course, as i also predicted, she did not apologize or anything to that effect either or admit what she did was wrong in any way – but i had figured that would be too much to ask for….
Basically, she wrote a somewhat lengthy response chalking everything up to “lack of communication” between me and her. She insists that she was never worried about giving me my cat back or our ability to care for the cat. She basically stuck to her point that she needed her own personal closure and she is sorry i interpreted this another way!
Overall, i think her response is full of crap, but i really don’t care. She did not want to admit she was wrong, fine, i never really expected her to. So i guess this is the best i could have hoped for – that she appears to want to brush the whole thing off.
Here is one quote from her message so you can see what i mean about what she is saying:
“The motivation was truly for us to process her (the cat’s) stay with us, and to get closure, which again, we felt we needed.” (‘we’ meaning her and her husband)
And here was her closing summary:
“Obviously we did not make clear what we needed at the time, which was to say a proper goodbye to YourCat and to debrief you on her stay with us in order to help us get closure, whether or not you understood our emotional need for such a thing.”
Of course i am tempted to reply and ask “if all you needed was this ‘closure’ then why take it to the level of not allowing your husband to let me take my cat home? Was it necessary and worth taking to that extreme?”
But of course there is no point as i have no desire nor energy to go back and forth with her on this! At least she is not hiding how weird she is, but that is probably because she does not think it is all strange to require emotional closure on cat-sitting! (especially a cat she could have seen anytime she was in my new city)