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Thank you all for your kind words and support in my last post. Sorry I didn't get to respond to them but I'm truly touched by everyone!

I heard the news on Tuesday and didn't know what to do. I'm a 24 hour flight away from my mom and I had work and a deadline coming up. When I told SO he firmly said "Don't worry about anything else, pack now and we're jumping on the next flight". I wasn't expecting him to come with me as he's in a tight deadline, also he'd be going to a country where he can't communicate with anyone. So when he said "we're" it took me by surprise, he might care for me more than I know...I was moved though and just bawled my eyes out.

Traveling took 2 days, I left adruptly but luckily everyone around me understood...I forgot to mail the check to my landlord, I had to send in my unfinished research to my boss at the University (my original deadline was Friday) etc.

When I arrived I went straight to the hospital...my mom was in the ICU (CCU) and looked so weak and sick. She was hooked up to all these machines and told me she was on pain. She could barely whisper out words but one of the first things she said was "Can you go choice the flowers for the venue on your own? There are a lot of things left that I can't help you with now, I'm sorry." It was so hard to hold back my tears...of course now everyone else in my family thinks I'm an insensitive Bridezilla coz whenever I'm not there my mom talks about my wedding. And when I'm not by her side (like my brother and his wife who camp there) coz I have wedding-related chores to go finish or work to do and send back to NY online, they hint in their tone that I only care about myself...Anyways everyone is here for mom not to fight so I am not picking fights or defending myself...but I'd wish they didn't constantly make me feel like that.

The doctors can't tell us how long she will be in the ICU...all we know is it's bad...she most likely will recover but things will not go back to "normal" and her condition will be like a bomb waiting to explode.

I'm having trouble sleeping, worried and  jetlagged so I found my old computer in the house can connect to the internet...thought I'd come back here to where all my understanding friends are!

we're all thinking of you & sending you lots of love, prayers and support!

Ms Scarlet, I am so glad that you updated your post! I've been so worried about your mom and kept checking ... I am glad that she will probably recover! I would tell your mom not to worry about anything except for getting better, maybe even hire a in-state wedding planner so she won't stress about the details.  I'm sure that knowing that your wedding is just around the corner will be enough to motivate her to have a speedy recovery. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Ms. Scarlet! I am so sorry to hear what you`re going through with your mom, and how unfortunatehow your family members are making you feel

Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent

*hugs*

I am thinking of you and your family. My father had a stroke and it changed our lives completely. He is doing better but had to learn to read, write, and speak again... few months of therapy worked wonders. I really hope your mother is on a the road to recovery much faster than you think.

And just remember, your mother loves you. Forget what everyone else is saying, as you know she is more important to you than your wedding. (Everyone blames someone for something) She may talk about your day because you are her daughter and she is happy for you. It is something for her to look forward to! Keep that smile and be strong girl... xo